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dying my hair.
my mom wont let me dye my hair.
im 16 years old and i can think for myself
and she doesnt get that. everyone dyes there hair these days and i still cant.
i dont understand why i cant. i get highlights
and my mom dies her hair. so i dont understand why i cant.
she keeps telling me its the biggest mistake. and youre gonna have to keep redoing it. blahblahblah
i have blonde hair. but my hair used to be sooooo much blonder. that my hair is like practically like brown. and i hate it.
i want to go like one shade lighter and she wont let me.
any suggestions?
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kaaay.
your mom has a point
you will keeep changing it over and over
and re dying it
i am 13 and i have been dying my hair every since i was 9
and i dont even renmemeber my real colour
your hair will eventully start to fall out
unless you use a good contitonier
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I realize you can think for yourself, but your mother is the authority figure and she determines the rules in your house whether you think they're fair or not. You live under her roof, so you need to follow them.
If you're extremely determined to lighten your hair, then ask her to give you 5 good reasons why you can't. And why just ask your mother? She isn't the only parent who can set rules, so maybe try asking your father. Though if they work as a team as I'm hoping they do (since a marriage is a partnership), he won't undermine her authority or her decisions.
And to be honest, dying your hair because everyone else does, and because your mom does isn't a good enough reason to dye your hair. Maybe you should give your mother 5 good reasons why she should let you. Have you ever thought maybe if you don't ask her so much she'd give in? Usually when you annoy your parents to a point, you'd think they'd give in but they usually don't. It just pisses them off more & makes them more determined to keep telling you no. If you stop asking for about a week or two, and that means dropping no hints, not mentioning the word dye, not going down the hair dye aisle in the store, she could pick up on it & maybe change her mind.
But if it still doesn't work, just accept your mother's decision because after all, she is your mother, and you are the child. What she says goes whether you agree or not.
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Well next time you go to get your hair done have her do an all over highlight look and it will look like you went a lot blonder but your mom will think it is highlights and when your hair grows out you can barely tell =] Hope i helped.
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This is experience talking....
If you are wanting to go LIGHTER, then you aren't dying your hair, you are lightening it. For an 'all over' color, this is VERY hard on your hair and doesn't look good. The roots also show VERY VERY fast,(within weeks) and it IS high maintenance. It also gives you that all over, one color, 'helmet head' look.
If you are going DARKER-then that is dying your hair an there are some excellent 'semi-permanent' colors out there. They wash out and aren't so hard on your hair.
Since you already get highlights ... I suggest getting TWO shades of blond highlights - blond and blonder, and do a heavy/all over highlight instead of a partial highlight. You can get a really blond look doing heavy, all over highlights. Plus the roots don't show as quickly as they do if you do an all-over color. You can also alternate getting partial highlights one month, and all-over highlights the next.
Stay away from that sun-in crap. It will dry your hair out, turn it orangeish, and you will be cutting it off.
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If your mom is anything like mine, just go do your hair and see what she says.
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It's really important that you respect your mom's opinions. If you don't respect her, she won't respect you, and you'll just end up with headaches and heartache on both sides.
Sometimes moms don't think very clearly, and they can seem hypocritical. Trust that she has your best interests at heart, even if it doesn't make much sense at times.
There are many safer alternatives for people who want lighter hair... you could use lemon juice and a hairdryer (or lemon juice and sun exposure, but bring the sunscreen). This will probably lighten your hair just a tad, but it sounds like that's what you want.
Discuss things with your mom, though; let her know you respect her opinions, but tell her how you feel.
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