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My ex-girlfriend


Question Posted Monday February 9 2009, 6:10 pm

So, I'm in such a wierd place right now, any advice would be great.
18/m
My (first) girlfriend broke up with me a few months back, and she wanted to stay friends(so did I), but she hasn't made a single effort to stay in any part of my life. Not one call, anytime we've talked, it's because I texted her. I haven't even seen her since a couple weeks before we broke up.

I miss talking to her and I miss having a girl, but I don't want her back. Even before she dumped me she was never around, she basically dumped me in her mind and let me know over the phone later.

Part of me wants to still talk, she was my only friend outside of my family, but the other part says 'screw you, I'm worth more than that, if you wanted to be friends maybe try to make an effort'

Am I being an ass because I kinda gave up on trying? I know I deserve better than that, I'm an amazing guy (not conciet,judging from most guys, I'm the nicest guy I've met :p )

Thanks!


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WittyUsernameHere answered Tuesday February 10 2009, 2:46 am:
You're pining.

Its time to move on. She doesn't give a shit, its time you stopped too. You aren't being an ass, you're waking up to the fact that this girl is kind of worthless. You're better off, now go out and make some new friends.

Oh, and labeling yourself as "the nicest guy you know" almost always (99% of the time) means that everyone _else_ labels you as a doormat. Your question here about "am I an asshole for giving up on a girl who neglected me and doesn't seem to want to have anything to do with me" kinda backs that up.

You need to expand your circle of friends, get out and away from your family, and develop a little more of your own life.

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kiran answered Tuesday February 10 2009, 1:25 am:
I would ask her. So many things go on in a girls head that it gets so confusing. Ask her whats going on and if she still wants to talk to you and be friends. Because if she won't make an effort then you shouldn't be forcing it. So I would say talk to her and see what happens there. Good luck! I hope everything works out for you!

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gohugurmom10 answered Tuesday February 10 2009, 12:16 am:
Your not being a jerk. Who knows why we girls do what we do. I don't even know, and i am a girl!! She has her own reasons and the best way to understand her is to ask. It is hard i know, i have been in situations like this and it isn't easy. But, if you care about her friendship as much as you say you are than you should definitely talk to her. Explain to her that you really value her friendship and that just because you have a dating history or that you broke up doesn't mean that you want to lose her forever. If this girl doewsn't want that, then it is her loss and she isn't worth it anyway. Maybe she is still hurting or doesn't know how to talk to you now that your not a couple. Communication is the key to any relationship.

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