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Dealing with death
My Friend has a boyfriend called Callum.
They were best friends before hand :)
But out of the blue his dad died 2 weeks ago.
She doesn't know how to be there for him.
I've told her she just needs to be there for when he is ready to talk about and not push him to far. I told her he isn't going to be himself for a while so always take it into consideration if he not in the mood to hang out or whatever,
but I really want to help her.
Because everytime something bad goes wrong in a relationship for her and she gives up. This is a very hard thing for her to deal with. She's not at all emotional - What advice can I give her to look after her boyfriend? What should she do to make sure he's ok?
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Hi,
Well the advice you've already given her is absolutely right. All she can do is be there to support him, listen to him and really just love him! The thing is nothing she or any one can do or say will bring him back. It will take time, maybe a long time and there's no easy way to deal with it but with time things will get better. And I think you need to support your friend in a similar way to how she needs to support her boyfriend. There's nothing you can do to change the situation, all you can do is be there and be a friend. Take care, MM
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Well the main thing she needs to do is be there for him! Even if it's just to sit there and say nothing. All she has to say is that "I know this is a hard time for you and I'm sorry if I am not responding to this situation the best way you would want me to, but I just want you to know that I am here for you and if you need anything I am here. Call me at 3 in the morning if you just need someone to talk to." Depending on the type of person he is, maybe he wants to be left alone, maybe he wants her to be there. Its okay for her to ask him how he feels and what he would like her to do. Sometimes when death occurs it's just nice to be around the people you love and not even say a word. Hope everything goes well!
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There isn't really anything she can do besides tell him she's there for him. Death is a very difficult subject to discuss and is never to be pushed. If that person feels he needs to talk about it, he will. Tell her not to give up, and to stay strong. He may push her away.. but he doesn't mean it. It's hard to decipher some emotions from others. If she stays by his side, but still gives him space when needed, she'll have no problems.
As for you, you're a good friend looking out for her like that. Good luck, hun.
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