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I can't stand them!
I aboslutely cannot stand my family. My brother annoys the crap out of me and I always get really mad when he's around. And my Dad is just like him, but worse. My Mom and I get in fights every day about the stupidest things. I can never be around my brother and Dad for more than 5 minutes at a time or I get super annoyed or really pissed. They know what they're going is annoying me and pissing me off, but yet they just keep doing it. More and more. They make fun of me, gang up on me and do whatever else they think of to piss me off. I've honestly gone to the point today of breaking down and crying in my room for hours because of them. I just can't handle it anymore. I don't like them. At all. What should I doooo?
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Hey my name is evan. im 15/m. i know how u r feeling. i havent always gotten along with my parents. a few months ago i found out i have a skin cancer for the second time and im going through chemo. even tho i never got along with my parents i dont know what id do without them now. your parents care about you. you may just not see it. at the end of the day they love you and care about you. you are their world even tho they dont always show it. i can relate to you with the brother issue to. my brother (17) is extremely annoying to me also. hes also very physically abusive also even tho im not in verry good shape right now. i get hit by him alot most times in places men dont wanna be hit. but i realize even tho he physically and emotionally hurts me, he cares about me and he loves me. so what im saying is give your family another chance. tell them whats wrong and know that they love you and they do care about you even if they dont always show it. even your brother =)
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First of all, you have got to sit down and talk with each of them. Your family cannot be changed, and having a good rlelationship with your family makes life so much more fulfilling. I know its hard, but they really do love you and sometimes all it takes is just actually venting to each other and being like "look im sick of you guys ganging up on me, i wanna be able to spend time together adn not piss each other off" try to find similar interests. support, listen, just try to only see their good qualities. talking to them about it will make a HUGE difference.
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I am the mother to a son who is going on 17 years old. I hope I can help you with some of this.
He often times feels the same way. As though I am always yelling at him and that I don't listen or that something else is more important to me than he is.
I think that at a certain point where you are getting older you are more prone to be annoyed and defensive. He also felt as though he loved and hated his brother at the same time and wasn't sure what that was all about.
But it's getting better for him because when he came to me and said please to listen to him and try to understand what he was saying or going through I did stop and listen. It took him telling me, but when he tried to tell me as if he were mad already or frustrated I would think he was being disrespectful and stop listening.
At that point I wanted him to not talk to me until he calmed down. When he realized that, we were able to talk about everything and work some things out, including some bounderies we both had to respect.
I hope that your parents are willing to do that. But you won't know until you go to them, calmly and respectfully ( even if you feel like they don't deserve it) and ask them to listen to your concerns.
As far as your brother, hun, only time will take care of that. Brothers traditionally want to take precendent over each other and something inside just has to battle out to be the alpha guy in the pack. That is normal and will subside.
I know that it is difficult to bear but have courage, like I know you do. And patience, which you have if you've listened to everything I wrote. Let me know if I can help more or if you need to talk.
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I know i can not make your family any less annoying, but i can talk to you about it. Brothers and sister, no matter who they are, get annoying at times. Some just happen to be annoying 99.9% of the time. Parents are parents, they had you nad now you have to deal with the consiquences of their childish behavior. I cry quite frequently, so i know how you feel about breaking down, as mentioned in your question. The best thing to do is to get involved in activities and stay as far away from your family as possible. If your not able to get involved in after school stuff, go in your room, lock the door, listen to music or do whatever helps you calm down, and just avoid them. Family is very important, but sometimes people have too much stress and stuff and can just not take it. My sister and i get in fights all the time, and sometimes my father and i do. My mother and other siblings do not live with me, but i know if they did i would get in fights with them. its the constant assemblage of everyone that makes the situations worse. The only thing i can say is to avoid them for a while and maybe they will stop being so obnoxious and immature.
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I must say that when I was growing up my dad and my brother were the same way and my mother and I fought almost everyday.
I can't say it will stop because my brother is now 22 and still does things like that to me just not as much.
The best advice I could give though is to ignore them, I know it sounds odd and very very hard to do, but the whole reason they do it is to make you mad and run to your room. So if you have no reaction or just laugh about it they lose their fun of it and will stop.
It really worked for me, it wont completely stop it but make it more mangiable.
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Ive been there sucks ..
My advice to you is to laugh at there jokes and make fun of yourself before they do act like they dont upset you walk around with your head up high.if there really starting to get to you dont give them the pleasure of seeing you mad laugh and walk away with your head up high. if that doesnt work have a serious talk with your mom and dad tell them what annoys you and how there affecting you goog luck.
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