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do i have a point, or am I just extremely over reacting?
17/f in a relationship of 1 year...
yes... not too long but i love this kid to death...
and i want to support him in anything he pursues as a career... but he wants to be, a cop. something i'm kind of against... i really dont know why. it's a great job, but *sigh* that whole risking your life thing isnt really working for me... me and my boyfriend have ARGUMENTS over this... i just dont know what to do? Back off? keep telling him to not do it? ='/ ... it's his life, but GAHHH i'm just so confused...
he feels the same on me joining the marine corps, which is why i decided not too... also b/c of my parents... someone please shed some light on this for me?
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i totaly understand where you are coming from me and my boyfriend have been dating for 10 months and he had thought about being a cop he asked me what i thought and i told him that i dont want him to because if anything happened to him i would completly lose it!!!( he has decided to be a lawyer) i mean we love each other alot more than people think teenagers should we are baisicly joined at the hip... i thnk that maybe if you told your boyfriend how afraid you are for him he would be a little more understanding.. i dont mean to be rude but you wanting to marine corps is a little hypocritical of you since that i think is a little more dangerous than being a cop but it is your own life and you should do what you think is best
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Okay, every carrear has a way of people dieing. Even people who sit behind a desk 24/7. But, every carrear take precassions to help prevent these things from happening. You need to understand that a cop, is no different. My grandpa was a cop and it sounds really cool. What kind of girlfriend would you be if you don't support your boyfriend with what he wants to presue. If you want to go into the marine corps. Go for it. They have more risk of dieing, but a high rate of preventing it with practice etc.
Let your boyfriend do what HE wants to do.
hope i helped
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You may not like the idea but if this a career he wishes to take some interest in let me. its something he really wants to do.
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You are seventeen, and you are right, a year isn't that long.
More importantly, the years ahead of you are going to change everything. Not some things. Not a few things. But pretty much all things in some way or another.
Now, you might still be madly in love with each other when it's time to start your careers. You might even both still have your dream jobs and be persuing them... You might both feel the same as you do now about the others jobs...
But come’on, that’s a lot of 'mights'.
Arguing about this is a bit like arguing about the name of your first born child... it might be a bit interesting, but it's also pretty pointless.
IF you two have strikingly different value and interests in how you are going to organize your adult lives, you will eventually break up. If you disagree, fundamentally, on your values and lifestyle choices, you’ll break up sooner or later! But arguing about careers that are years off is arguing about dreams and inclinations, not intrinsic values.
By all means, let him know what you think about his goal. But don’t discourage him openly, just state your opinion and be an otherwise engaged listener. He deserves that much. (Point of fact: So do you. Don't let this arguement become about YOUR issues with the choices you've made. Just because other people's opinions may have altered your choices doesn't mean he's required to alter his.)
Only you can make the choice to be with him or not, but for the time being, you can also choose not to make this a big deal when it doesn’t have to be.
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