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friends not speaking 1 is coping as an only child with a dying parent
2 couples involved
friends for 20+ years recent bitter aqgument over politics has resulted in couple #2 stopping contact (they know couple #1 wife has terminally ill father (Dr said not to count on Thanksgiving)
Woman is an only child, planning her fathers funeral home care etc has enough to deal with
Plus she feels that people she has loved & emotionally supported for years have abandoned her... therefore must never have been true friends
I am close to couple #1 & well aquainteed with couple #2.
should I contact couple #2 & tell them how depressed their absence is making wife #1?
all involved are 55+ years with grown familiew
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I probably wouldn't play mediator in this case. If they can't agree to disagree about politics, then it's true their friendship may have not been that strong at all.
They may work it out on their own or they may not, but you might just alinate one of the couples by getting involved too deep in their battles.
In otherwords, It may be a good idea to stay neutral in regards to their argument. Or you may likely get the blame somewhere down the road.
What you can certainly do though is be there for emotional support in regards to what the woman is going through with her father. She will appreciate the fact that all her friends haven't abandoned her, and it might make all the difference in the world for just that one person.
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I think wife number 2 is so frazzled right
now that wife number 1 needs to step in and
say something to her friend. Left to fester,
this will never get any better.
She needs to say listen, we have been friends
for how many years? Are we giong to let an
argument over politics ruin a long friendship?
That is really so petty. Wife number 2 needs
her friends right now. Take wife 1 to wife 2
and make them see how ridiculous this all is.
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I think letting them in on what is going on, they are going to feel guilted into going to them. With all that is going on Wife #1 could go through some pretty terrible depression. Maybe teling couple #2 how this fight is silly and only causing distress on each other. See what their response is. Then let them know how depressed Wife #1 is feeling and how much she has placed on her shoulders and all she might need right now is her friends.
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