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sex at 15
my boyfriend is 14 and will be 15 in a month and im 15. we've done everything but sex(hj,bj,finger,eat out).
we both want to have sex, but when i actually think it over i'm scared out of my mind.
i DO NOT want any STD's and i definitely do not!!!!!!!! want to get/be pregnant.
is this a good idea?
he will use a condom but i dont know, i'm still worried.
plus i'm alergic to laytex gloves but not laytex like balloons and stuff so do you think i will have a reaction to condoms??
i will not go to my doctor for anything so PLEASE HELP ME OUT!
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If you are scared about it, it means you aren't ready. Sex is something you want to have and you will know when the time is right. It's not really something you should plan. I would wait until you get older because you might regret it when you get older and you would want your first to be someone you love and want to spend your life with. Hopefully this helps!
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well besides the fact that the condom might break or slip off, why take the risk. think about it this way.... you love your boyfriend, right? so does it matter if you have sex now or in a couple of years when and if you get pregnant it wouldn't be as bad (although it would still be bad) as it would be now? and if you're thinking that by then you two won't be together then why waste sex on him at all?
all i'm saying is that if you plan on being with this person then time doesn't matter and you can have sex in the future instead of rushing into things now.
hope i helped
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If you have engaged in all that sexual contact already, you probably already have any STD that he does.
You don't need to have sex to get a STD. Sexual activity like you've described can transmit many of them just as effectively.
If you weren't his first partner and/or he wasn't your first, you should both get tested.
Being scarred out of your mind, and not being confident enough to speak to a doctor, are both very good signs that you are not confident in your decision to have sex. I really want to have a snow leopard as a pet, but I still know it would be a bad idea, and I certainly wouldn’t talk to my vet about it! He’d probably get really angry with me. A wild animal as a pet is a bad idea.
Condoms are pretty good protection against STD’s and pregnancy, but they are far from perfect protection. You are right to be worried. At your young age, that is a huge risk to be taking. It’s only sensible and sane to want to avoid getting pregnant or getting an STD.
The best way to avoid getting pregnant or getting an STD is to not engage in sexual activity and to not have sex, the next best way is to use a hormonal form of birth control (like the pill) AND a condom. The first way is prefect protection; the second way will always carry some degree of risk.
You’ll need to check your allergies to see if you are allergic to the latex used in condoms. If you area, there are other kinds of condoms out there, but you might need to do some research into other types of condoms and where you can purchase them.
Having sex with a condom carries some risk, having sex without a condom is just plain stupid. Whatever you do, don’t be stupid.
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Girl! You're only fourteen! Stop the hormones! They seem to be taking over your life! Lol. It's okay to wait for certain things. Fourteen is definitely NOT a good age to have sex...there is definitely a chance you could have an infection or even get pregnant! Wait a few years...if you're still with this dude then sure try it out I guess.
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You're 14 and moving too fast. You aren't mentally nor physically ready for sex yet. What's the hurry anyways? It's got to be right and with the correct person. I can tell that you aren't ready based on all the fear, panic, doubt etc. you have about it. You'll know when you are ready because there will not be any doubts or lingering thoughts. You'll feel absolutely 100% certain it's time but right nope it is not.
If you can't talk to a doctor let alone anyone else about sex and birth control and being safe then you really aren't ready because you haven't prepared to protect yourself. A condom isn't fool proof as you must know by now. In the U.S. it's all illegal for anyone under 18 to have sex with anyone else.
When it comes to condoms there are sheep skin condoms for those with an intolerance to latex. They're often found at specialty condom stores etc. and not drugstores. You would have to be 18 to purchase them there.
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if there is any thought in your mind telling you not to, then i would advise you not to have sex, i don't personally label an age with sex like i lost my virginity at 14 and i still dont regret it .. so if you really love this guy then alright but if your really worried and dont think its a good idea, then dont.
and as for the latex thing, you could have him use those odd lamb skin ones or whatever they are haha or look it up on google, they have an answer for everything.
gooodluck
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