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senior & freshmen
alright so i'm a freshmen in high school now and i'm starting to like this kid whose a senior. i can tell that he likes me a little too but i don't know what to do. is it bad to date 3 years of age difference in high school? i know it doesn't matter later in life but i don't know about now. i know my parents would never approve but i like this kid a lot. what do i do?
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For starters i have a couple of friends that are started dateing seniors when they were freshman like you. Some of them are with the same person (who is now in collage). I personally dont think it is a big deal for a guy as a senior to date a freshman girl. What you have to do is find out if he is a dirt bag. You need to find out if he will just do what he wants and leave you(like do stuff and leave) or if he really wants a relationship. Ask some of his girlfriends or ex's. I no that sounds weird to ask, but its for your own good becase we all no that it sucks to get hurt. You should probobly become friends first then move on from there. If you find out thought that he is a dirt bag to girls like he has cheated or done stuff with a gilr then just left her then he is no good. You will just get hurt in the end, and thats not a good thing. I hope i helped you.
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i agree completely with the other person who answered this question, and on top of that from my experience most senior boys only care about sex. the naive freshmen who think they're really in it for more than that gives in, and once they get some the guy moves on to the next one they can get. then the girl spends the next year obsessing about this guy who really didn't care about her. now i don't know this guy so he could be different, but as far as i have experienced this happens 90% of the time. make sure you really know this kid has good intentions before you start dating if you do. good luck :)
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When I was in high school I would have been completely okay with the idea of a freshman and a senior dating. In my age, I have become a bit of a stick in the mud... but just because I have also gained wisdom in my "old" age.
Freshmen and seniors should not really be dating. UNLESS you are casually dating and realize that it is not going to go anywhere (most likely anyway). In the very near future he is going to be filling out college applications, considering strongly where to go and what to do in his future, possibly moving away... and while all of this is going on you will still be focused on high school stuff like what clubs to join or extracurricular activities to be involved in, etc.
I think the high school dating thing is really tricky. There is such a vast difference between a freshman and a senior primarly because a senior is about to step into adulthood and all the things that has attached to it. A freshman still has three years of childhood left.
Again... dating very casually at this time may be okay. If you dont be very slow, casual, and careful you could end up finding yourself suffering a lot of heartache come next summer/fall if/when he moves away and begins the rest of his life.
Sorry if this is not what you wanted to hear. I just remember some heartache as a teenager and wish someone would have talking realistically to me about these things. (I dated an exchange student not really considering or realizing that he would actually be leaving the country at the end of the year and I would never see him again. We never disucssed it, just had a great year and it took me a VERY long time to get over it. I was a junior and I never dated anyone else in high school because I still missed him. I later wished we had just been good friends that hung out and such but didn't get too intense).
Best of luck.
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