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telling my boyfriend im pregnant
so let me just say that im 16 years old and so is my boyfriend and im about 99.9% sure im pregnant im taking a test when i get paid in couple days but my boyfriend and i had sex when i was ovulating we were using a condom but he must have not put it on right because it broke and we didnt notice it until after he came .. anyways
i need to tell him and my parents, my mom will be upset a bit but she would get over it quickly and i know she would help me she already said if i every got in this situation she would and im not worried about telling my parents its my boyfriend im worried about he has this whole plan to go to college and graduate and start a business and if we had a baby together at 16 then thats going to change, his parents are the opposite of mine, they don't like me to much because i dont go to church.. and they told him if he got me pregnant he would have to drop out of school and it would ruin his life and i just feel bad my friends said its not all my fault but i just feel like it is and i dont want him to have to ruin his plan he has and ah im just so stuck what should i do or say??
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well i dont agree to the person below me. i mean i think if you beleived in abortion you would take that path, you did not ask us about it. and as far as adoption, Witty is first of all wrong for claiming its "retardedly"<<real mature?>> easy for babies to find homes. there are so many kids "in the system" its sad. its a fine choice if you decide on it though. this is all up to you and your boyfriend.
well with that said. this wont be easy at all. there is no easy way saying it. obviously tell him first. and discuss ideas/options. we on this site cant boss you around and tell you what to do. this is up to you and your boyfriend.
things may be rough, but luckily it sounds like your mother will be there for you. after telling your boyfriend..both of you need to go talk to her and discuss options.
he can still continue high school and down the road who knows maybe when you two are 18 you will decide to attend community college to start the first two years while the baby goes to daycare. its not a bad option to get main courses out of the way. i know this is the last thing on your mind..but its an example that there are comprimises out there and together with your boyfriend you will talk about these options.
hang tight and good luck sweetie!
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You're both responsible.
What I have to say next, is probably going to sound a little screwed up.
I'm pro choice for a reason. Beyond "a woman's right to choose" I also believe that too many people bring children into the world that they are not ready to raise. I fully support the right of any woman or couple who is not ready to be a parent making the choice not to be.
If you aren't ready, adoption or abortion. Any other choice is going to negatively impact everyone, including the future child. You aren't ready to be a role model, arent ready to support a child.
If abortion doesnt fit into your belief structure, isnt preferable, is an abomination in your eyes, etc, consider adoption. It is retardedly easy to find people who want to adopt newborns. Remember Juno? If you havent seen that movie, you probably should now. Its the most relevant to the topic at hand I can think of.
If you start early, you have almost 9 months to find a suitable family thats well off and in search of a child to adopt. You can find people who are searching for a child to love and who are ready mentally and financially to have and raise a child. They can take the baby out of the hospital nursery and make it as easy on you as possible. You can choose whether or not to even see the kid or just let his/her parents take him/her home.
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It's not all your fault, he is just as responsible for the situation as you are.
If he didn't want to run the risk of having a baby at 16, he shouldn't have had sex at 16. Sex = Pregnancy Risk. It always has, and it always will.
The both of you, together, made a choice, and it turned out to have some not so great consequences.
A lot of people in this world, including your boyfriend and his parents MIGHT blame you for this. But that would be wrong, and mean. You are both responsible.
You need to tell him, just the same way you need to tell your parents. Of course you feel bad that this happened and will change his life plan, but sesh girl, it’s gonna change yours too! You don’t owe him an apology, just the truth.
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Tell your boyfriend once you know for sure like the last person said. However, If you are pregnant whether your boyfriend has plans for the future or not he should be beside you 100% supporting you and the child. After all, it takes two to get in that situation he is just as responsible. Everyone's future changes when they have a baby, It's a part of life. Things don't always happen the way we hope. Life takes it's crazy turns sometimes.
Best of Luck
BahaiMa22
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Once you know for sure you tell your parents.
The boyfriend should actually be worrying right
along beside you. Hes mature enough to have sex,
Hes mature enough to face the possible
consequences. He should be worried, he should
be scared.
Will his life come to a halt? Probably not.
Unless you get married he will happily go
on as he has been. You are the one who will
do the paying. He should be held responsible,
but 9 times out of 10 the guy goes on with his life. He is legally not an adult, so I don't
know the legality of it all.
I don't tell you this to upset you. Its
just statistically the way it goes. You
need to be prepared to take this on all
by yourself. His parents may have told
him what hes going to do should you get
pregnant, but in reality they will probably
protect him when it comes right down to it.
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