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I'm so confused
14/f.
So a week ago today I was at my friends house and it was 1 in the morning. We snuck out. We met two guys downtown. I knew both of them but one more than the other. Lets call him Joe. The other Bob. My friend, lets call her Sam, was going so she could hang out with bob and I was going to hang out with Joe. I kind of liked him but I didn't really know him. So when we got down there, this is going to sound horrible but, I had sex (my first time) with Joe. Joe already liked somebody but liked me as well.
Since then Joe and I hang out all the time and talk all the time. But two days after I had sex with him I got drunk, don't ask why, and had sex with one of my brothers friends. I told Joe about it and he was upset but didn't really care.
Joe really likes somebody but he says she is really prude and it turns him off, which has drawn him closer to me. Today there were fireworks in town. He ended up bring the other girl he liked.
I liked somebody else as well but didn't really know him. When I told him everything that had happened he stopped talking to me. So now that he is out of the picture I feel like I like Joe more and more everyday. But he says he really wants to date me but it's not fair to the other girl so he can't.
We both REALLY like each other, but he says it wouldn't be fair to the other girl if we started dating.
Any advice? I'm so confused and really don't know what to do.
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Well i know this might be harsh but i wouldnt do anything with this "joe" that you have done already because it sounds to me like he really cares about this other girl. Your friend "sam" maybe be able to help you out with this one, so you could turn to her as well. As for this "joe" sex really is not the answer it might sound like everything is ok after that but it really isnt. This guy sounds confused talk to him a little bit more openly and see his side of the story
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Ok, seriously. You have to stop getting drunk and having sex with guys that you barely know. You're FOURTEEN!
Get drunk when you're older, and your organisms aren't still growing, and have sex when you feel ready, you have a steady boyfriend and you can discuss things with him...and when you're a bit older.
About this Joe guy, it seems like he likes you, but he doesn't know what he wants and this could result in you and/or the girl getting really hurt.
Try to get to know him a bit more, it's only been a week and see how things go from there.
If he tells you that he likes you, but also the other girl a little bit then don't date him. Dating you may make him realize how he feels about the other girl.
And honestly, stop having sex with Joe.
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K so its clear that you two really like eachother and if you two are serious about going out then maybe you should try it and that means that joe is gonna have to tell the other girl that he likes you and wants to go out with you because the truth is if you really like someone and they like you back then you should go for it because if you dont you'll always think about him and how you never got the chance to go out with him good luck:)
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