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Psycho Stepmom
Hello, I am dealing with a woman who is crazy!! She is my Kid's stepmom. The kids are 2 girls 9 and 11 and one boy age 8.
Problem is she is way overly sexual toward my kids verbally. And now sexually. I found out from my daughter today that the stepmom and her father went on a camping trip with their combined 7 kids all in one tent. They had loud motion filled sex in front of the kids while they were supposed to be sleeping!!! My two daughters described it all to my horror. Is this illegal? They have sex with their bedroom door open. Her rules are always open doors, because bad things happen when doors are closed. She told my daughter all animals go to hell when they die.She told them a man may rape you and rape is when they have sex with you , and are sick of raping you and kill you when they are done with you. She talks about their sex life while driving in the car. Her oldest daughter talks openly about blow jobs and oral sex on women and she is 12. They go down the road having open sex talks!!! What happened to singing or talking about the disney channel?The list goes on and on. The woman is a 2 time convicted felon for child endangering and robbery and a 3 time misdemeanor for shoplifting. Their father is now brainwashed by her and hasnt seen his kids in 2 months. I live in a nice home with a wonderful fiance and a perfect home life filled with love. I am afraid that a judge is going to make me send the kids to him eventually . I have custody, he has visitation. Any legal advice? Any pschological input on crazy?? Thanks!!
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If you have custody i don't think the judge is allowed to force to parent or guardian to make them be a witness they have to have a parents or guardians consent.
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Wow, that's horrible that your kids are being subjected to that -- Especially so visually and at such an early age. While "sex talks" and things of that nature are common in some households (even mine), it's to an extent. It goes to where kids are informed, or maybe joke about it a little bit, and stops there. Not to the point where the kids are seeing sexual acts going on, and a twelve year old vividly talks about oral sex, etc. Kids this age definitely KNOW about that stuff, but being so open about it makes it easy for them to begin actually doing things, and getting away with it.
Also, some of the things she's telling your daughter seem pretty shady. She seems very morbid and pessimistic around her/your children. Is she trying to be funny, or is she seriously talking to your children like this? If it's a serious thing, yeah I'd definitely recommend legal action. Not like you can sue, but custody should be questioned. This isn't exactly a good environment for kids to be in.
I'd say to try to talk to your ex husband. You said he's been "brainwashed", but can he listen to reason at all. Let him know it's bothering you, and that if they can't tone things down, he won't be able to see the kids as easily as he can now. Give him time to see how he reacts/whether or not he talks to his wife. If things don't seem to go well, talk to whoever would be in charge of your custody, and legal issues. See what they can do for you. I'm sure they wouldn't be happy to hear about what these kids are going through at their father's house.
Also, talk to your ex about how these are still HIS kids, too. If he hasn't seen them in two months, he should step up some time soon. It's not really fair to the kids. If you feel very strongly and don't want the kids at that house, let him see his children in a public place.
XOXO
KAT.
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A woman with her criminal record and current behavior has no business being in any kind of parental role with your children. Your children are not old enough to understand how to differentiate between "crazy" and normal parenting styles. They are impressionable. They are sponges.
From what you've described, this doesn't seem to be a questionable situation - it sounds like an emergency situation. Seek legal counsel. Request an injunction of some sort. If the children have already been away from their Dad and Stepmom for two months, this might be the perfect time to seek an adjustment to his visitation rights based on the exposure of your children to inappropriate behavior and a potentially unsafe step-parent. Best of luck to you.
Kind wishes,
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well my parents are divorced too and idk if this will help you in any way but this would be seen to the judge im sure as an unstable home to stay in saying that the parents were having open sex for the world to see. i would take it to court that you dont want your children around that women because of how she is tell them what your daughters have told you and go from there
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Take it to court. Seriously. If you could, get your daughter to testify and tell the judge the things she has been told and has heard. The judge will give you full custody and he would make it so when the father has visitation, someone would have to be in the room with him and the kids at all times.
This just doesn't sound safe for the kids to me. No person in their right mind would say those things in front or directly to children that age.
Lucky it isn't me. That woman would be long gone by now....
Hope I helped!
x0*-Bryttnii
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Before she ruins you're family it'e better to take steps to get this women out of the way, she is defenatly abusing the children in a serious way. take legal steps and try to fix the problem fast, this person's conversation's don't sound sane.
HEALER
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its not crazy
yet its not right
my mother would make sexual jokes but i was 13-15
when she started
your kids are way too young to be finding out about stuff like that
and open sex, horrible
you could make a lawsuit and take custody
thats what i would do, you would get child support and wouldnt have to worry about your kids being corrupted by this sexuality and violence
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