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does he hate me?
okay, so for most of the summer me & this kid have been hanging out a lot w. mutual friends and every time he alwayss flirts with me hardcore, cuddles with me, puts his arm around me and acts like he likes me. he's a flirty person but still..it felt like more because of how much chemistry we had. even our friends say so and think we look soo cute toghether..then last night we hung out and it was totally different. he was nice to everyone BUT me &acted like he hated me! he even flirted with my friend right in fronttt of me..& avoided me like i was a disease or something! :[ i don't understand how it could go from one extreme to the next. except that a lot of people found out i like him..and i think maybe someone told him..now i have no idea what to do..its so awkward but we dont know eachother well enough for me to talk to him about it..thatd just be weird. what do i do? i have to keep hanging out with him because hes still friends with my friends and whatnot. i just hate that its awkward now. i tried to be nice to him, but he acted creeped out and wouldnt even make eye contact with me. im sooo confused at what to do here.
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Oh, wow. This is kind of an odd situation. Sounds like it could be one of two things, in my opinion. Either he found out you liked him or had feelings for him/has some other reason to be upset with you, or he's playing some kind of messed up trick on you/playing hard to get.
Have you told anyone about your feelings about this guy? Have they told other people, or him perhaps? If you're not completely sure the answer is no, you might have a pretty awkward situation on your hands. The fact that he flirts with you so much and cuddles and everything, it seems like he's either very easy going, or very into you. If he found out you liked him, it's probably likely that he's the easy going type, and this has made him uncomfortable. He could have just been making it clear that he wasn't intersted last night, so that you'd know to back off or something. That, or you could have done/said something wrong, or he could have decided he didn't like you? Though I'd doubt that. It seems pretty unreasonable.
The other option, that he's playing a trick/hard to get, is less likely, but still possible. If he's playing a joke on you, he should stop bluffing soon. If he's trying to play hard to get, he's a) Taking it over the top and b) Interested, but shouldn't be flirting with your best friend. However, if this were the case, he'd probably at least look at you..
Unfortunately, guys aren't so easily read, so that's all I can really say from what I know. You'll probably have to talk to him, as 'awkward' as that'd be. Just think about this, though: If you guys were close enough to flrit, etc., shouldn't you be close enough to talk about what's going on? It's going to be even more uncomfortable if you DON'T talk to him, because you won't know why he's acting the way he is. If you do talk to him, depending on the results things could get a lot better, or stay the same as they are. What's there to lose? If you can't/don't want to talk on the computer, speak to him the next time you guys are together, or ask a friend to talk to him since you said your friends were mutual. The sooner you get details, the sooner things can work themselves out.
I hope everything works out well for you!
XOXO
KAT.
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guys can be very mysterious creatures. at times, trying to figure out a rubix cube could even be easier than trying to figure out a guy, especially when you're without even having the liberty of talking to him about his oppinion of the sittuation.
however, being the position your in my suggestion for you is to take a step back and realize what your saying. you admitted to the fact that you dont know the boy well enough to talk about things such as this so you to clearly aren't that close. put yourself in his place, if you started hearing from all your friends that a girl you didnt know all too well randomly liked you when maybe this is a girl you just had a good time flirting with you would probally either 1, be a little creeped out that a few hangouts that you thought were just a good time turned into a girl with a crush on you running and telling all her friends or 2, you might be thinking all your flirting may have led her on a bit so you back off so you are no longer giving her the wrong idea exspecially if you didnt feel the same way.
although, like i said, guys can be very difficult to figure out. i may be completely wrong with both of those accusations and it could simply just be that this boy did hear that you liked him and he also had feelings for you too, so he gets nervous and backs off a bit to make you jealous. if this is the case though, dont worry because it is only a matter of time that he will be back your way so for the mean time just take it easy and your best bet is to just play it off as if you dont care, it will aggervate him more than anything and speed up the process.
so my advice for you is to not let this eat you up. it sounds as if this is just another case of confusing boys and you dont seem to have done anything wrong. i think your just going to have to give this time and don't dwell on it. whatevers meant to happen will happen and with however this turns out i wish you the best of luck. i hope this helped! goodluck
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wow, he probably realized you have a thing for him or that the flirting could turn into something more, and got scared. i think you should just make him want you, like show off in front of him (for example: like laugh and look his way stuff like that) but reallly i think hes just scared because things are progressing well. maybe even make him think you like someone else..then he will be jealous and not as much scared. hope it helped:)
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I think that he is trying to make you jealous. Sometimes guys act that way to make you want them even more and they do things that will make you mad. Guys are like that. He is just playing hard to get. Don't act affected by it so he will get confused and just come back to you. Hope this helps.
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Relax. Sometimes guys play this game because they are playing hard to get. I know I've acted like a jerk to girls before, but I told them I was kidding and we always laugh about it.
Maybe he does feel awkward that you like him? Maybe he did find out.
Hmm.. lots of maybes here. If you want the truth, you need to go to HIM and ask HIM. We do not know him and we cannot read his mind.
It could have been a joke or it could have been a serious reaction to something you did/said, etc. But the only way to know for sure is to talk to him.
--Jack
(16/m)
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