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Not right?
I had a great teacher in my old school, I still live in the same town, but I changed schools.
I hadn't seen the teacher for a year, until last week I went to pick up some stuff that I ordered, and stopped at Starbucks. There he was (I'll name him Simon to make things easier) and I was happy to see him, he turned around and he was all happy and smiling and said ''Hey, name, I haven't seen you for over a year!'' and yes we hugged.
I'm almost 16, and he's a young teacher, I think about 24. We sat in Starbucks for about 6 hours, drinking and talking, and I found out that he's not with his girlfriend anymore and I don't know...I just like him so much.
He's always been relaxed. Like when I was going through shit times, I started smoking (I quit, and I'm proud :) ) and once I was sitting in the park near our school smoking and tears running down my face. He sits next to me, I tell him about all the shit that happened, and he helped me sort everything out.
I basically have no secrets from him, and since that day at Starbucks, I've seen him again twice.
We kiss each other on the cheek to say hello and bye, but practically no other physical contact.
I have fun with him, and I care for him..and I know so much about him but if any of my friends knew..well they'd be jealous cause he's pretty good looking, but I'm not sure what they'd think.
He is an ex teacher, but my friends still have him as a teacher.
I've only told my best friend from my new school, and she thinks it's cool, but she said that if he was one of her teacher, and knew that he was kissing me, she'd feel really uncomfortable.
And is it illegal...that's my main concern?
He taught me for a year, and now I go to a different school. I'm almost 16.
So confused and lost..
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im sorry to tell you this but yes it is illegal to be with him. i know that it feels like you and him are on the same level and you too seem to be good friends but this wont work out right,at least for now. he is first and foremost your teacher plus he is older then you. i think you two need to cool off right now. He is older so he probably thinks of you as a younger sister, kissing on the cheeks and hugging is all that you too will probably do, nothing sexually related. the biggest problem here is that if you two do start a relationship he will be in trouble with the school, teachers and the law, if you have any feelings for him at all you will keep him in the "really good" friend zone untill your 18. just enjoy each other for now and wait to start a relationship. but if he wants to start something with you (physically) you need to tell him "i feel the same way, but i wont risk your way of life, i really care about you so i am putting you first and we can just wait to start a relationship till im 18. just wait and i promise i will too" then smile and leave so he cant get any ideas of what to say back but stay friends with him (call him the next day to ask him about homework, and have a good talk). More likely though he just thinks of you as a friend so, be nice to him and have a good time (as friends).
i understand your position completly and i no things will be akward for a bit but if you keep trying to be friends he'll stck around.
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What you are currently doing isn't illegal. Running into an old teacher and pecking them on the check isn’t illegal, however, as your friend pointed out, it could be misinterpreted. It isn’t something that should be happening on a regular basis.
For you to have a romantic relationship with him would be illegal every state and country I know of. He could not only loose his license, he would likely face some fines and/or jail time. Your parents would have no difficulty getting a restraining order.
If these other meetings are also just public bump-into-each others, that is fine. There is nothing wrong with bumping into an old teacher and greeting them warmly. HOWEVER if you or he are arranging these get together, then you have crossed into grey-zone where the police or the school board might get involved if they find out.
It is illegal and wrong, for him to enter into anything more then a friendship with you.
Since you have such a strong friendship with him, maybe you should mention your feelings of ‘something more’ with him. He sounds like he will kindly help you sort those feelings out.
It’s not unusual to be attracted to older people, especially people like teachers. It is VERY normal to be attracted to someone who helped you through a challenging time in your life. You just need to put those feelings in their proper place, and not let them lead you down a dangerous path. There are very good reasons that these laws exist that forbid this romantic relationship: they are meant to keep you safe and healthy.
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Yes, unfortunately it is illegal. You should really just cut all ties with him and I know that it is extremely hard but its the right thing to do. Although you two just exchange pecks on the cheek, it may lead to more and then you will be in a big rut. I'm sorry because it seems like you like him a lot but you have to stop talking to him or else it's only going to get worse. Hope I helped :]
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that is deffinately illegal,your a minor.Teachers and students should not be having that kind of relationship with each other,he crossed the line.You need to find someone that's your own age and forget about the teacher.
♥ danielle
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Is it illegal? I'd wager it probably is, but I'm uncertain. He is STILL a teacher, and you are STILL a student, different school or not.
ygs-30/f
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