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Dropped by friends
Has anybody ever been dropped by your friends? Like, they just completely ignore you or stop contacting you, etc? Because my friends did that to me several months ago. And when I say several, I mean several. I've gone now a very very long time without the support of my friends. I was just wondering if a similar situation has happened to any of you, and if it has...what did you do? How did you cope? And anybody who really has been through this knows that it's not as simple as just finding new friends. It just really really isn't. Because there are a few people within this group that I'm still a little close to, but there are others which just hate me completely for some reason that I don't understand. And I still want to have some friends, so I can't just drop my few friends I have just so because they're associated with the friends that ditched me. That doesn't work I'm sorry. I'm having a hard time dealing with this...and I just wanted to know if I'm alone in having this situation happen.
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We all learn and grow and change. It would be my bet that you have either grown out of this circle, or they perceive you as changing, it is most often the cause of such behavior.
Most people, especially young people, have a problem with change, they want everything to remain the same, (it is what the story of Peter Pan is about). Now, the big question is, (if it is you that is changing and not them), are you going to be a good puppy and follow them, or are you going to grow and learn and become who you were meant to become?
You act as if your friends define you, so if you have no friends, you are nothing? Perhaps there is a need for you to be friendless here, so you can learn to be self reliant. Your letter wreaks of weakness, where is your center, with in you, or with in your friends? Not a position of strength dear one.
Life throws nothing at you that you can't handle, learn what you are suppose to learn and stop being a victim of your own life.
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I think people just change and sometimes you are part of a click and don't even know it. A click is where people hang out with each other for superficial reasons, like because of social status or because you all like the same things. Sometimes one of your so called friends will say something about you and people just stop talking to you without letting you know. I say it is their loss. When you see them confront it, and ask why. If they still don't want to be there for you it is still their loss and your gain because you are not compromising your self respect . I know making friends is hard but use this experience to find out what you don't want out of a friend and you'll find yourself with a new set in no time! Think about it!:-)
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This HAS happened to me! It's so annoying. My friends did it to me because i was hanging out with my boyfriend more then them--which i would sit with them every single morning and talk to them while my boyfriend went to a different school--some friends arent true and just back stab you. I tried to talk to them, they just didnt listen. I even am going away with one "friend" this month to hollywood, please wish me luck. It's going to be very awkward with her with me for about 2 weeks. We had a sleepover on sunday, it didn't really exactly work out to well. she got bored and fell asleep at about midnight. i was up, sitting in the bed, texting my friends until 3 or 4 am. [its about 3 am here now in ny] In my contacts, she is under "truee friend". Which is complete bullshit, i told her i was going to change it and she got really upset. You should start being rude back to your friends... becuase they deserve it<3
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