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I need to know the right thing to do
I am a female and in the seventh grade....I have a problem in school and i'm hoping you can help me....there's a 8th grade boy in school who always flirts with me dirty and really freaks me out...he writes to me in notes that he likes the way I change in the dressing room: he sliped a note in my locker like this "Do you like maths, if so add a bed, subtract ur clothes, divide your legs and we can multiply!" ....another one like this ......."what did your left leg say to your right leg? don't know they never met! because my tounge is always down there" ....and he told me this in person ...."Do you know that you would look great with two pounds less ... in my opinion the clothes you're wearing weigh exactly two pounds!....it grosses me out and the worst part is My boyfriend says i'm acting weird so he thinks i'm cheating with him....i sure hope you can tell me the easiest thing to do.
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Well, this boy does have issues and is sexually harrassing you. You need to tell him to stop this nonsense immediately. If he does not stop, or you do not feel comfortable talking to him which is totally understandable since he has treated you this way, you need to go straight to an adult. Maybe talking to your parents/gaurdians about the problem and they will most likely take care of it. Other wise go straight to a faculty member and tell them what is going on, also keep those notes that he keeps giving you because they are excellent proof of what he is doing. Do not be afraid of getting him in trouble because odds are that you are not the only girl he has gone after like this. Either way you look at this you need to avoid this kid at all cost and tell an adult about it, and provide them with copies of the letters. Also if the authorities get involved immediately give them the notes. This kid needs to be taken out of this commmunity and taken to a facility where he can get help or at least realize that what he is doing is not funny nor acceptable.
Never take any crap like this from any guy no matter what age they are because they are trying to get one thing out of you and they are most likely willing to do anything to get you to that point. I don't want to scare you, but then again you need to get this kid out of your life so you can move on and fix things with your boyfriend.
As far as the boyfriend thing show him the notes and tell him what exclty has been going on, he will most likely realize that nothing is going on between you and this creep of a boy that you want. He also will protect you to the best of his ability.
Just please get an adult involved and don't get rid of those notes. Keep them as proof because this kid will deny everything you present to anyone. If you present those notes he has no where to run and you win the battle and not only save yourself from him, but also many other young girls like yourself. I hope this helped.
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whoever the hell this kid is has problems. no girl should EVER be talked to like that. trust me on this one, i know from experiance.
tell him to stop,
if he doesn't then you tell someone
and keep moving up the list to higher authorities until they tell him and finally stops.
and i would stay away from him too,
avoid and ignore
goodluck =D
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Tell him to stop AND tell a teacher, or better yet, your principal.
What he is doing is sexual harassment.
It's a good idea to ignore immature comments, but these aren't just immature comments, this is sexual harassment. Sexual harassment is a crime, and evil, so you don't ignore it. You report it.
You can't make him stop all by yourself, because it's obvious that he finds your discomfort funny.
He needs to find out it is not funny at all. The only people who can teach him that are the adults. So let them deal with it and it make it clear to him how absolutely not funny this behavoir is. It is the kind of behavoir that will get an adult guy beaten up, shoved in jail and fired from any decent job. The adults know this, and will make him stop.
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This guy is a perverted jerk, and you shouldn't have to put up with it at all.
The easiet thing you can do is to let him know that his comments are not funny in the least and tell him to cut it out. If he doesn't stop this disgusting behaviour, don't be afraid to tell a teacher or the principal.
Once you've done this, let your boyfriend know that you've taken it into your own hands and have done something about it. This way, he'll know you're not cheating on him and aren't afraid to stand up for yourself.
Hope that helped some and good luck with the situation. :]
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sounds like he is sexually harassing you,
easiest thing to do if you want it to stop tell a teacher or principle, tell your boyfriend hell probably stand up for you and tell the kid to cut the shit.
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Look, you don't have to put up with this.
You have 2 options.
Tell him to stop, seriously. Better still, ask him why he does it. Does he think it's funny? Because you certainly don't.
If he doesn't stop, tell a teacher. and make it clear to him you aren't afraid to tell someone about it.
In the mean time, don't let it get to you and ignore him. He obviously wants reactions from you. If you don't give him them, he'll soon get bored.
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