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ok so i babysit for this 10 month old and i have been since he was about 6 months old.. and latley ive just been having these weird feelings like i want a baby of my own.. like i look at baby clothes and stuff online and i dont know why im feeling like this i think im way to young im only 16.. but i just want to know why im having these feelings? like there really strong to.
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Your body is quickly maturing so a lot of hormones are rushing around. They are very intense feelings right now but you will learn to control these urges a bit as you grow.
My cousin, who was 15 at the time, really wanted to become pregnant. She talked about it constantly and how much she really desired it. I've noticed that as she's matured these urges have died down some and she isn't as centered on them. Her hormones have balanced out moreso and they aren't trying to run her body as much as they were.
Having a child a 16 can really do some major damage on your body. A baby takes a lot from your body while you're pregnant and in it's infancy. It gets all of it's nutrients from you and can deplete you of your own--which can cause you not to mature completely (stunted growth, weak bones, depression, etc).
Also, a baby takes a lot of time and energy. The baby needs 100% of you all of the time. They need all of the emotional support you can give them and, face it, you're not quite up to that yet. Try thinking about balancing child rearing, a full-time job, paying on hospital bills from delivery, and homework all in one day. You'd get so burned out quickly that you couldn't provide a decent life for the baby.
Having a baby means you're sacrificing all of you for another being. You have to alter or give up your future dreams to ensure that they will have a future. Forget having decent relationships with guys too if you're unmarried. They will know how much responsibility you hold and may even fear of getting you pregnant again; even if you stay with the guy that impregnated you he may become nervous of producing another child and there will be a lot of stress on the relationship--more reason of a break-up. The baby becomes your entire life, your world revolves around him/her.
Here are some facts you want to consider on pregnancy:
"...you thought the home pregnancy test was expensive! The costs of raising a baby to age 18 costs between $125,000-$250,000 and that's not including college tuition! In your baby's first year alone, you can easily spend between $9,000-$11,000..."
"...childcare can cost as much as $3,000-$4,500 in your baby's first year, not to mention the higher insurance premium for adding an additional person."
"Don't forget about the delivery! It easily costs between $5,000-$8,000 for a normal vaginal delivery, up to $12,000 for a cesarean delivery and much more if there are complications."
"...plan on spending between $1,600-$2,300 by the time your baby is potty-trained. Expect your baby to go through at least 7-8 diapers a day on average and spending $80-$130 a month on diapers alone (especially in the first few months, when changes are more frequent.)"
"For formula (up until your baby is one-year-old), expect to spend between $1,000-$2,300- depending on whether you use powder in a can or ready-to-pour liquids. Plan on spending at least $40 a week on infant formula."
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It's quite impossible that you can give a child a good life at this point in your life. You need to think of raising a healthy, happy baby instead of giving into your own desires.
Think of it this way:
If you have a baby, you're being selfish when you should be doing everything you possibly can to ensure your baby grows up well. You simply are not thinking of the possible child right now--you're only thinking about you. Be selfless. Don't reproduce yet. Give your children the best you can.
Give it some time. Let your body mature and grow a few more years before decided if you are able to raise a child. It's okay to feel motherly but it isn't okay to give into your desires right now. It's nature to want to reproduce but it's best to wait right now.
So, in short, it's your hormones trying to balance out in your body still. Relax and enjoy your youth while you can. You have plenty of time to be having children when your body is more mature and you're more stable.
I hope your urges calm down and you can relax a little about the issue so you don't feel you need to jump into things.
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i was always the girl when i was younger that was like ill never have kids... im almost 18 now and i got pregnant at the age of 16. the baby would have been born just after my 17 birthday. i was with jon... my ex and the babies daddy... for 3 years. i had an abortion because i have a heart deffect and couldnt have a baby with my heart. i was relieved when i knew i couldnt have a baby, but so bummed. now everyday i see a baby i want one. but im happy that it went the way it did. me and jon broke up just recently adn the baby wouldnt have had wat it deserved. your too young to have a baby because the baby wouldnt have a steady father figure chances are and its unhealty for you. these feelings are very common. its in a womans blood to have those motherly feelings. just think of it this way... babysitting a baby that age you can see it grow and be with it as often as you wish basically but when you get tired of it... you can always give it back to its parents. to have a child is a life long commitment. can you imagine having another life in your hands from today till the day you die... if you ask me it seems far too complicated... just stay strong with these urges adn remember.... your only young once.. live it up
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My best friend's mum recently had a baby and every time i look after him/go and visit them i feel like i want one too. It's not quite the same because i dont really babysit him , but your probably feeling sort of motherly, looking after him and you miss him when he's not there, like anyone who looked after kids as long as you have! Waot untill your old enough and you want a kid with someone you love, and then it will be even more special :D
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Hey. Wow I can totally relate, girl. I know how you feel. My advice to you is to not get pregnant even though you are having these feelings. I think you are having these feelings because the baby makes you feel something you don't feel around anyone else. Babies are really adorable and sweet, and one day you will have one of your very own.
Vickki
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that's exactly how i am with my neice, but its
just because at the end of the night or whatever,
youre able to give that kid back.
it's pretty normal.
spend a week or so taking care of the kid and
listening to it constantly cry. im shure that
will change your mind lol.
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