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is there a way..?
if you are 15 and pregnant, is there a way you could get an abortion without your parents knowing? or do you need your parents to do it or what? i do not want them to find out or else i am screwed. its still not a for sure thing but just incase. please help
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It does depend on what state you reside in and I've found a link to help you out in this area. I do want to express my concerns for you and your body though if you do decide abortion is your chosen option.
Abortion can really harm your body just as much as giving birth to a child. I understand your body may not be mature enough to handle pregnancy but no woman's body is truly ready to abort a fetus.
I know it comes down to your body, your life, and possibly even your mistake. I am truly only concerned for your well-being.
Women who have had abortions can experience problems later on. Many women suffer from depression after having an abortion because, in the end, they realize that they have stopped another human life. The dates of conception, abortion, and the date the child would have been born haunts many women. Some woman can't deal with this so much that they end up committing suicide. If that isn't enough, many women experience difficulty conceiving years later after an abortion--yes, it can render you infertile for the rest of your days.
I found a VERY interesting site for teenagers on abortion. These girls had abortions when they were your age and have gained courage to write about their experiences for other teens to read:
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Most of them regret that they had an abortion. Many of them cannot get over that fact and have the dates stuck in their minds. I'm sure that when that date passes each year they are reminded of what they went through to rid themselves of a life they were developing inside of their wombs.
I also want to direct you to a site that shows a live abortion. It's in different parts because the speaker gives you a lot of information on what the fetus and the mother will be going through. The video shows the ultra-sound as the procedure happens. It is important you see this before having an abortion so that you know fully what will be happening--it is best to inform yourself. Before clicking the link to watch the video, prepare yourself because it is real life:
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...Part 3 really starts to show the actual abortion happening. The speaker does add that the doctor that did the abortion never did another one and that the woman filming it never spoke about abortion again, though she was previously for it.
Now, after all of that, if you still choose to seek abortion as your option I'm including the link to the list of states that allow under-age non-parental consent abortions as of July 2007:
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Please know that abortion is not your only option. Please give yourself plenty of time to decide what is the best choice. Even if your parents are upset that you are pregnant they will eventually get over it. Some parents can be really hurt in the beginning that their son or daughter disobeyed but, in the end, they still love you. Many parents later realize that the unborn baby IS their grandchild and help their son or daughter to figure out how to raise the baby when it comes.
Please do not put your body through the mess that is abortion. Take your chances and open up to your parents about what has happened. Like I said, even if they are upset they WILL get over it.
Adoption is also an option of yours. Please look into it if you feel you can carry the child but not raise it properly. You can contact an adoption agency in your area or you can relinquish your rights of your child and place it in the custody of the state for adoption. I've read something about Volunteers of America for adoptions being really good but I have no personal experience with them myself. Here is a link directing you to their site:
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I hope that you take enough time to decide what choice is the best.
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Im pro life too,but im not here to judge.Ide prolly have to too if i was pregnat.
well it all depends what state you live in
like i live in cali
and you can do it without a parent or anything at a plan parenthood or something
if you need more info just ask
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Please don't get an abortion. It is killing a human. At 15, you are not ready for a baby, but putting it up for adoption is a good idea.
You know you screwed up, but don't take the life of another human. Your parents won't kill you when they find out. They'll be mad, but understanding.
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