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my friends wont stop fighting !!
ok so my exboyfriend (we're still friends) and my bff wont stop fighting. they just dont like each other. my bff always hits him and makes rude remarks on how dark he is...so of course being a normal guy he has to defend his ego...so he says something rude back...and it never stops ! i've already talked to both of them and my bff wont agree to stop and my ex said that he has to say something back. i cant go anywhere with both of them at the same time. i want to be able to go out somewhere with both of them acting like civilized people.
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Do you know why your bff keeps saying rude remarks. Ask her. There mite be a reason and then when you figure that out, you figure out what to do next. Tell them if they don't get along when your around, then your not going to hang out with both of them if it gets that. If you don't want to do this than seperate them. Go to the mall with your bff on friday and then saturday go to the mall with your ex. You mite just have to do something like this if it gets bad. Some people just do not get along. Tell your bff that its really hurting you that shes doing this to you and making you so stressed over crap like this. Maybe she'll listen and stop. If you need anymore advice email me!
Hope I helped!
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try not to have them together. make sure you spend some time with your ex and try to have some time with your bff. If they dont get along why have them together right? and try to tell them thats its NOT good to fight becaseu its hurting YOU. and i both think thats not good. Hopr this helps!
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Don't take this the wrong way, but your friend sounds like an idiot. Why does she care how dark he is? I'm not sure if she's referring to his skin tone or his personality, but either way, what concern is it of hers? Plus, I hate girls who think it's OK to hit guys whenever they want to. Its bossy girls like her who end up getting hit back and completely deserve it. Sorry if I sound harsh, but I don't even know her and I already don't like her at all.
I feel sorry for you and your situation. Obviously I don't have all the facts or the history of what happened between you and your ex (for example, if he cheated on you, she has every right to dislike him (but NO right to hit him)), but it's your choice to remain friends with him and she either needs to accept your choice or stop being friends with you. The least she could do is spare you the frustration and complain when you and she are one on one.
Unfortunately, I don't think there is any resolving this problem, which sucks for you, I know. I can relate though. I have a lot of guy friends who are all jealous of each other and I can't hang out with them together at all. I have to do everything with them one on one, even birthdays and holidays. You'd think for our sake they'd stop being immature and petty, but it's never going to happen. Sadly, I've been dealing with this my whole life.
The best advice I can give you is to sit them down one on one, starting with your best friend, and ask them why they don't like each other. Do it in a very serious and stern tone and let them know that you feel caught in the middle. Warn both of them that you don't want to have to choose, but if you're forced to you will. Maybe then they'll back off and chill out. If they don't, either pick one or hang out with them separately.
If they complain about not spending enough time with you in the future, remind them that they caused it by not getting along and tell them it's not your problem anymore. But no matter what happens, get your friend to stop hitting your ex. Seriously, that's not cool at all. It's absolutely no different for a girl to hit a boy as it is for a boy to hit a girl. Bickering is one thing, but your friend is provoking a physical fight. Make her stop now.
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