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ways to say "i love you"
Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been together for almost nine months. I love him very much. I'm always looking for ways to show him I love him, more than just saying the words. If anyone has ideas on things I could do I would greatly appreciate it. I've already burned him a few mix cd's with songs that say how I feel about him, and I made him a notebook full of 101 reasons why I love him. I also made a list of 101 things I want us to do together. Any other suggestions...?
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after a long slow passionate kiss that you know he also felt special and strongly about, just say it. whisper it. make it as meaningful as you can since its a big thing to say. dont expect him to say it back right away. guys sometime need time. relax. and just make it natural. you know? dont plan ahead. next time just say it when you FEEL it the most at that second. its just so special and beautiful then. good luck okay?. and update me =)
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If I'm being completely honest, your lists are probably driving him crazy. If you really want to prove to him that you love him, stop making him lists! You seem to be under the popular misconception that what would make you happy is the same thing that'd make him happy. It's not.
Girls and boys are pretty different, so if you want your boy to know you love him, you have to do things that he'll enjoy. Watch movies with him that he likes. Play games with him that he'd like. Go places with him that he likes. Buy presents for him that he asks for. Do things that make him happy.
It isn't just your words that shows someone you love them, it's your actions. While your lists may be a kind and thoughtful gesture, how do you think it translates to him? Remember, girls and boys are different and he may interpret it a completely different way. Talk to him and get to know what he likes.
Just remember three things:
1. Relationships are about compromise. You want to make him happy, but don't put yourself in the position of being unhappy for the sake of his happiness. In a successful relationship, both people are happy and work towards maintaining that. You shouldn't have to do anything you don't want to or aren't ready for (such as sex) just for him. If he loves you in return, he'll respect you enough not to make you do things you don't want to do.
2. Open the lines of communication between the two of you. The simple fact that you're asking this question suggests to me that you don't know this guy very well or you wouldn't need tips on how to make him happy or say "I love you". Happiness shouldn't be that hard to achieve, so make sure that you know how he's feeling and that he knows how you're feeling. That's crucial to the lifespan of any relationship.
3. When you're in love, it can make you feel like you heart is swelling up with so much joy and happiness that you might explode. This feeling is usually released by letting the other person know how you feel, so naturally you want to say it and show it as much as possible. Be careful with that, because that leads to smothering the other person, which can lead to a very fast breakup. Nobody likes to be smothered, especially guys.
So just ease up a bit and learn the fine art of subtlety.
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