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Too much of a nice girl?
In life, I like to be polite to everyone. This has become a problem because whenever I hang out with my guy friends. At least one of them starts to like me and think that I like them back. I really try not to act flirty but its getting to the point where I'm losing my guy friends after having to turn them down. Its really bothering me, I miss just being friends with them. What do I do?
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It's not your fault that they start to like you, you should also try not to flirt with them because they probably take it as your leading them on then just changing your mind. You need to tell them that thats not what you were trying to do, and all you want is to be friends with them.
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Well, you could tell them that you don't to have a relationship with them, because then, both of you won't get hurt and that you still want to be friends with them, just not too friendly, if you get my point.
It's obvious to me that you obviously don't have any interests in them, even though that you want to. That's fine. But you've got to say "No" before you're forced to turn them down. This is fine as well because you're saving yourself from the agony of breakup later.
I hope this helps,
triquetra
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Well your never going to know if your going to like them unless you give them a chance. if you know in your heart that it will not work then tell them you just wnat to be friends and DON'T let the talking stop. they might feel wierd but thats when you need to stop in and take control. just start acting like nothing went wrong eventually it should go back to normal.
good luck!
-E
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Come striaght out and announce it to them that you're looking for a great friendship with them, and to not take your niceness too seriously.
That way, they would know if they're flirting, and you're being nice, that's just your personality.
I'm sure they'll understand.
Good luck on your friendships!
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