|
virgin
17/f
is there any way to reduce the pain when a guy "pops your cherry" My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and think it's time but im afraid of how much it might hurt.
are there any tips or tricks i should know about?
should i be on top or bottom?
yeaa im clueless lol
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Sexual Health and Reproduction category?
Maybe give some free advice about: General Sex Questions?
i would recommend bottom for your first time. then if you begin to get comforable with the sex during your first time and there isnt to much pain then you can try switching to top. i dont believe there are any ways to reduce the pain from breaking a hymen but i do know that ive had plenty of sex and i havent bled once. for that i dont know. you could come to find that youve already broken your hymen by using a tampon or something of that sort.
hope everything goes well.
also, i hope that helped. :)
good luck darling.
]
In all realistic truth, its not going to be that bad.
Worst case, it hurts for a few minutes. If you really want to reduce it, then pop yourself manually with a dildo or tampon so the moment is easier.
General tips about sex.
1) Explore. The human body is full of all kinds of fun nerve endings that make people smile, moan, or squirm when stimulated. You wont learn where they are without touching them and making him react, so explore.
2) You are going to suck at it. Get over that. Sex is a skill that learns from experience like many other things in life. That being said, take heart! The first sex you have will be the worst you have with him, its all uphill from there.
3) Pay attention and ask questions. When you're doing something, guys usually dont mind the "hows this feel" question. Give him the opening to ask questions or make suggestions. When doing something to him, watch his expression. Watch him enjoy it, and learn to read his reactions. Eventually you learn what he likes and can get him to react however you want.
4) Communicate! Hes not going to know you want him to rub that part of you more unless you tell him to!
And pillow talk is sexy. Go find a few penthouse letters books at your local bookstore and read through them. They will do a good job on increasing your sexual vocabulary.
5) Sex is about your partner. This goes for both partners.
6) Some guys think screaming is sexy. All guys think quiet moans are sexy. Quiet sexy moans are a good way to let a guy know hes doing something right.
7) Interact! Don't just lie there! If you are on top encourage him to touch you, and if you have the presence of mind touch him. If you're on bottom, give him responses. Touch him, run your hands up his arms, over his neck or chest, through his hair.
8) Relax. This is your boyfriend. The guy you can be yourself around, the guy you can be safe around.
About 4 days ago my girlfriend kneed me in the face. Clicked my jaw shut. Hurt like hell. Gave me a headache.
I couldnt stop laughing at how pitiful she was and how bad she felt and how much she was trying to take care of her poor boyfriend who she kneed in the face.
Awkward times happen. Hes your partner, and thats part of being with someone. You learn to laugh them off.
And, hes going to be nervous too. Its his first with you. And if hes been with you for 3 years, hes going to be worried about performance. If he wasnt a virgin before he still hasnt had sex in a while. If he IS a virgin hes got most of the issues you do plus a few guy specific ones that can devastate a mans confidence for years to come.
Let him know its OK for him to fuck up too. Laugh. Smile. Enjoy the time you spend with him and the intimacy inherent. The trust.
All you have to do is love each other. You'll figure out the details as you go along.
::Edit::
Christ its already long. The safety speech though!
If you arent on birth control, look into it!
Wear a condom! Period!
VCF. Vaginal Contraceptive Film. Its on the same Aisle as condoms in any store. Its like a breath strip. You put one inside the vag, it dissolves over 15 minutes into a spermicidal gel. Its quoted when used properly to reduce the chance of pregnancy by about 85% (roughly the same as condoms)
Use one of those with a condom, and you have a second line of defense if the condom breaks.
]
actully there is no way you can really reduce your pain , but if you have him finger you (that will hurt like a bitch) but it will hurt less when he goes to you know anyway i say missonary your first time it's better for you on bottom
]
well wat me and my boyfriend did was we messed arounnd or foreplayed before we had sex our first time so try the whole fingering thing to kinda make you loosen up a little and then try sex! lol if i was you i would probably be on bottom since its your first time!
]
Well, lubricated condoms work great. Especially if you're nervous and you can't get wet. Don't tighten your muscles because that will also make sex uncomfortable. If you're really tight, start fingering yourself.. or make him finger you.. Since his fingers are usually larger.. try to manage at least 3 fingers. My first time didn't hurt. I was afraid too.. but preparing yourself for it is the best thing to do instead of waiting.. almost dreading that moment.
Be on the bottom for your first few times. It won't hurt as bad because if you're on top.. it's deeper penetration that I'm sure you aren't ready for. If you're going to try being on top, you need lube until you're used to it.
]
More Questions: |