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What's wrong with my bf?
15/f
my bf is completely taking me for granted. he never calls/txts me and when we talk online he is playing his stupid computer game and not paying attention to me.
but the weird thing is- he acts like he's all happy to be with me when we're on dates!!!
please tell me what's up with him... :( i'm so upset.
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He might just value his personal space. He could genuinely be very happy with you, but likes time to himself too. I see my boyfriend a lott, and i love him. but sometimes like if he has work i feel releived that i can unwind, do some work, watch some tv or just take a drive or hang out with friends. its normal. if you are always paying for the dates, etc. then he might be using you, but he seems really happy spending time with you, so that is what counts, that he cares about you. you can bring it up if you want some reasurance, and he might tell you exactly what i suggested, he likes to just hang out and be by himself sometimes.
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I know how you feel my ex just did this to me...well the only adivce i can give you is to let him know whats bothering you and talk to him in person about it and then go from there as far as what you are going to do with the information he gives you.
or you can dump him before he dumps you
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Take Ygsgirl's advice. She's a good columnist.
If you haven't spoken to him about this, you need to. Guys cannot read our minds, no matter how well they know us. My guy has technically been with me for two years, and has no idea what my deal is unless I tell him, and he's one of the most intelligent guys I've ever met.
Explain to him how this makes you feel, that he never calls/texts you. He may not realize he's doing it. Let him know you feel ignored and taken for granted, and help him understand what he needs to do in order for you to not feel that way.
Good luck.
-Siren =)
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Maybe he prefers talking to you and spending time with you in person rather than on the phone or computer.
I'd take that as a compliment. It means he would rather be with you personally. Phones and computers are really rather impersonal.
Have you even talked to him about this? If not, you should. That's the way to find out what's going on in a guy's head.
My husband, for example: typical guy- can't mind read, don't read between the lines, don't know what the problem is unless it is directly stated to him.
He's not stupid by any stretch of the means, but he is a guy and he doesn't think like we ladies do.
Guys generally don't do the whole complex beat around the bush type things we ladies tend to do while expecting to be completely understood.
If you have a problem- say so, but be glad he likes to actually spend time with you and enjoys going on dates.
ygs-29/f
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sad to say hes a boy. Boys dont always think abbout girls feelings. They think differently. Also, like my boyfriend, people can be better in prson than online or over text. Dont be ofended by it. Maybe bring it up casually. He probably isnt even aware.gooooddluckk!
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