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how do i come out
okay so i am gay but my mum and no-one else knows how should i come out to my mum as i am worried if i tell her she may hate me
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only you know whether you can tell your mother at this point in your life or not.
it angered me reading the other responses that said she will not hate you and to just go and tell her, she will love you regardless.......
i am not saying this may not be true, but you are the only one in this situation that has grown up with your mother and knows her sense of morals and her thoughts on gay relationships. unfortunately there are enough parents out there that don;t understand this lifestyle and do renounce their children for coming to terms with who they are. fortunately there are parents that love and embrace their children for who they are, not what they are, and are strong and supportive through this tough period.
i came out to my parents in a truly bad way telling them out of anger and my parents had a very hard time accepting it and accepting me. it made for some uncomfortable times over a number of years before they realized that this was not a passing fad, but more a part of who i actually am.
make sure you've come to terms with who you are, and you have an understanding of where she is at regarding this issue. and realize that even if she is accepting of this in others she may not be so accepting of it in you.
my mother wanted a young strong man, a football player, who would give her many grandchildren.....and it hurt when she found out who i was. she did get a strong young man, she did get a fofotball player (four years) and some day she may get grandchildren, but that was not the mental image she had in her mind of what i was going to become.
i do not advocate staying in the closet, coming out is difficult to say the least. but sometimes things are better left unsaid to certain people and are dicovered gradually over time, through actions rather then words.
i wish you the best but tell you to follow your heart and not the advice of strangers over the internet prompting you to throw caution to the wind and speak up. only you know the truth.....
keeping you in my prayers,
michael
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Firstly, your mum will not hate you. She may be a little shocked at first - maybe even disappointed - but within time, she will come round to the idea and be happy that you are happy.
Honesty is the best policy. Sit her down and say you need to tell her something which may surprise her, but you want to her to love you no matter what. If you don't really have a close relationship with your mum where you feel comfortable sitting her down and telling her straight, you could write her a letter.
You know, you shouldn't be in such a rush to tell her if you aren't ready.. You should do it in your own time.
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heres my brilliant answer umm be like ummmmmj..... i truly dont know but just tell her because shes going to figure it out eventually
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Never EVER be worried that your Parents/Guardians will hate you. My Mum is gay, and I have numerous gay friends.
Your parents love you for you, and if your happy they will know that, and they will encourage you to make the most of it. Its not easy breaking news like that but its only cos your thinking of the worst outcome.
As for telling her...
You could
*Write a Letter explaining how you feel and why you were worried to tell her.
*Text Her sying the same thing
*Or just speak to her face to face which sometimes if the best option.
Perhaps tell a close friend first then get them to drop a hint, so she has a chance to think of her reaction. Then when she does find out, it will be more expected. Good luck hun, let me know how it goes
Marizzle<3x
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