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my girlfriend gave me a handjob, i came, i fingered her, i touched my penis inbetween the two "pleasures." odds of her pregnant? what are some cheap pregnancy tests. (link)
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honestly this is ranking in the top five stupid questions i ever read on here.
obiviously you should still be playing candyland and not experiementing with your sexuality if you think there is a chance that this type of activity could lead to pregnancy.
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i am a 30 year old white male. and i have not seen my girlfriend in 2days, and we live together, and i think she is seeing her ex boyfriend. how do i handle things when i see her again ? (link)
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uhmmmm lets see your thirty years old coming to advicenators.com to ask a question about not seeing your live-in girlfriend for two days.?.
hmmm, i hope you are not trying to set the stage for an alibi for something you did that might make national news....... because this would be the most feeble attempt i have ever heard about.
"uh officer see i could not have had anything to do with her disappearance becayse i was asking for advise on the internet on how to handle it when she came back, so see i did not think they would find her in the truck of my car.....duh?"
that would be pretty weak dude. ..........
really have you called her parents, her friends, her job, i mean covering all the necessary bases before jumping to conclusions as to her whereabouts.
surely she would not disappear for two days without you having some idea that there are/were problems in the relationship. are there signs that she has been in the house while you are not there?
i do not know why but this whole scenario somehow smells fishy to me.......see you on the news in a couple of days.....
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okay so i am gay but my mum and no-one else knows how should i come out to my mum as i am worried if i tell her she may hate me (link)
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only you know whether you can tell your mother at this point in your life or not.
it angered me reading the other responses that said she will not hate you and to just go and tell her, she will love you regardless.......
i am not saying this may not be true, but you are the only one in this situation that has grown up with your mother and knows her sense of morals and her thoughts on gay relationships. unfortunately there are enough parents out there that don;t understand this lifestyle and do renounce their children for coming to terms with who they are. fortunately there are parents that love and embrace their children for who they are, not what they are, and are strong and supportive through this tough period.
i came out to my parents in a truly bad way telling them out of anger and my parents had a very hard time accepting it and accepting me. it made for some uncomfortable times over a number of years before they realized that this was not a passing fad, but more a part of who i actually am.
make sure you've come to terms with who you are, and you have an understanding of where she is at regarding this issue. and realize that even if she is accepting of this in others she may not be so accepting of it in you.
my mother wanted a young strong man, a football player, who would give her many grandchildren.....and it hurt when she found out who i was. she did get a strong young man, she did get a fofotball player (four years) and some day she may get grandchildren, but that was not the mental image she had in her mind of what i was going to become.
i do not advocate staying in the closet, coming out is difficult to say the least. but sometimes things are better left unsaid to certain people and are dicovered gradually over time, through actions rather then words.
i wish you the best but tell you to follow your heart and not the advice of strangers over the internet prompting you to throw caution to the wind and speak up. only you know the truth.....
keeping you in my prayers,
michael
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Hi, I'm David, I'm 20 and I'm from Australia. My boyfriend is 19.
I have been in a long term relationship with my partner for about 15 months now, and everything was going well. We were living between my place and his, spending about half the week at his place, and the end of the week/weekend with my parents at my place. We were together every day, slept together every night, talked via email or txt messages while we were at work or apart.
We've gone through a few things recently: Uni struggles/exams, I lost my job, he started working full time at a demanding summer job, I went overseas.. For a few weeks, since about the time he started his new job, he'd been a bit distant and not wanting to have sex. I asked several times if everything was OK, and he said it was, so I assumed he was just really tired from juggling uni stress, training as an elite athlete, two jobs and our relationship. I went overseas for about 10 days, and when I came back I could tell he was unhappy, he wasn't his usual bright self.
Over the weekend just gone, we were house sitting at his sister's place, and I asked him what was wrong and I kept asking because I said I wanted to know so I could help. He shed a few tears and told me that he didn't think he loved me anymore.
I got out of him that he doesn't think he loves me anymore, he doesn't love me the way he used to. He thinks the spark is gone, though he still cares about me.
On Monday we told my Mum, and she talked to both of us. He doesn't think working on it will help, but he's not sure. So we decided we'd break up and take a break. We moved all our stuff back to our own places. We had tickets to a concert Tuesday night, and we still went. The friend we went with said it was odd, because we were still symbiotic, and it didn't seem like anything was wrong, we were still talking and laughing and everything as usual, just we both looked a little sad.
He told me Tuesday night he had a little more hope we could work this out, but he said I shouldn't get my hopes up because he didn't want to break my heart again.
So my question is, will this break work? He says he still cares about me, but he's not sure he loves me. Will giving him time and space let him realise that he mightn't feel the same way about me as he used to because his love for me has changed, not gone away? (link)
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hello david,
let me assure you that i can understand your problem. as an adult gay man i know how hard it can be to find mr right and keep the romance alive. i comend you on having a long term relationship at your age. i am a bit older then you and think my longest relationship at your age was four or five months. not that i was one of those new-age gay whores, i was not, but it seemed like i could not form any lasting romantic bonds at that point in my life.
a few years later i found my prince charming seemingly perfect and everything i ever wanted in a man, and we were together for four years. and we both fell out of love. i received a full ride scholarship to work on my masters degree four hundred miles away and he told me that he did not love me enough to go with me, and i had to tell him i did not love him enough to stay. the first year of our relationship we would have travelled to anartica to stay together that it amazes me how that love evolved over time.
this will not be an easy road......it will involve tears and sometimes bitter rememberance that will feel like your heart is twisting in your chest. but you will get through this.
the most amazing thing is that you are still friends, and still have that spark of kindredship that allows you to truly enjoy each others companionship in a platonic manner. you'll never understand how friendship in this life is so much more important then the most intense romantic relationship ever is.
take your time in jumping back into the dating pool, but do not be overly optimistic that things will ever go back to the way they were. they wont david,this does not mean they wont be better but they will never be the same.
do yourself a favor if things never work out.if he starts dating again distance yourself from going out with this man if he meets a new guy. go out with him but not his lover for a good long while. be honest about why, you have to do this, but you will never know the pain of seeing the man you love with another guy, when you are pining on the inside for him.
a year later my raymond is now remarried, ceremony and all and it breaks my heart that he moved on so quickly, and i detest him for it. but in the end i know that this is for the best and life will heal itself and my heart. the same will happen for you, just give it time.
i know this does not help much. but its all the advice i have to give.
take care
michael
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I don't have self esteem issues... i love myself i'm comfortable with who i am and think i'm pretty funny... but all my ex's are jerks or crazy. they fall pretty hard usually and take it to extremes. i don't think i'm bad looking but think i look young. i don't know, i just seem to have a problem meeting good guys. how can i get myself out there enough to meet my next victim...jks (link)
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this reminds of a cute little saying i heard many years ago, "you have to kiss alot of toads before you find your prince." and atleast in my life i have found this to be true.
the most important thing to remember when finding a new beau is that you should not go out of you element to find mr. right.
for instance if you do not go to clubs as a general rule do not go out and looks for guys in clubs, you'll find your interests are polar opposites.
if you don't generally go to church do not start in the hopes of finding a "good" man you'll find that interests beliefs morals are not capatable.
finding mr. right may not happen for many years but hang in there. do not compromise yourself or your values just to say that you're dating someone, it will only lead to heartache later. its better to be alone and happy, then with someone and miserable.
hope that helps.
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so i found a vibrator in my moms stash of things. lol before i use it or even think of using it..would that be totally gross if i did..she doesnt have std's or i would too since i am her daughter..but should i or shouldn't i use it. thanks (link)
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REALLY?!?!? YOU CAN'T BE SERIOUS?
1st of all if your mom violated your "stash" how would you feel? would you complain of a lack of trust and privacy? young people often complain that they have no privacy yet have no problem rifling through their parents private matters.
anything you may have found while being on a secret recon mission should be left alone. i am certain this is not an item that was left on the kitchen table in plain view...... therefore it is none of your business. there is nothing wrong with self exploration, but there is something wrong with your invasion.
even if your mother has no diseases there is still a chance of yeast infections, and other problems araising out of using others sexual toys. here is a life lesson, NEVER ever use someone else's sexual toys without washing them and using protection on them just like you would with a man. if this is not clear !!PUT A CONDOM ON IT!!!
you may want to believe that your boyfriend is being clever and bought something like that soley for your usage but the truth is, you never know. there is still a danger present.
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Ok, me and my best friend are going on a cruise and we want to hang out with people a.k.a. guys...but i have a boyfriend...what should we do? (link)
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really this is one of the sluttiest questions i have read in a long time.
i have a boyfriend but i want to step out on him and have a week away with my bff and random annonymous dudes.
sounds like you should really either bring your boyfriend along with you, dont go on this cruise, or break up with him before you go so you do not break any bonds of monogamy and trust, if there is any there to begin with.
you may opt to be promiscuous but your boyfriend is not. any diseases you bring back with you from this cruise you have the potential to bring back to him, and he should not have to pay for your indiscretions.
you may honestly be planning to merely "hangout" with other guys, and nothing more, but then you need to ask yourself why you have this complusion to be around other guys other then your boyfriend. it could be that you not mature enough emotionally or physically to be in a relationship and you would be wise to end things on good terms then allow this cycle of immaturity and stupidity end up hurting an innocent man.
thats all.
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i need a question need answering, so hopfully someone can help me. can you get preganate one week before your period, if so if i took a preganacy test a couple of days after my period that i didnt have, would the test say im preganate or not. or is it too soon to take one. thanks x x (link)
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honestly as a man it is completely annoying to find young women on any site asking questions about sex and pregnancy. first of all, it's your equipment, you should be educated on the inner workings of your body, and this education should not be completed online. honestly, society wonders whats wrong with american youth but at the same time we allow computers to do our parenting work! but you are not completely to blame.
the next thing that i have to say is that if you are not old enough to know about the way your body works you are far to young to be using it for sexual purposes. shame on you.
now since obiviously your mother is too busy to give you a true education here is your answer. the menstal flow is the bodies natural way of expelling an unfertalized egg from the body. once a month a woman's body releases one egg from the ovaries down the fliopian tube and into and area just above the uterus. if semen does not fertalize the egg within a week the body flushes it with menstral blood. the week prior to the period the egg is waiting to be fertalized. so is it possible to get pregnant the week before your period???? huh duh..... its the most likely time to have become pregnant.
the science of pregnancy test is not so extact quite yet to discern pregnancy within a day or two of the first missed period, though they are getting closer......take another one in a week or so if the period has not arrived.
i am obiviously just speculating that you are a young lady, so it would be helpful if you understood that irregular monthly cycles are not uncommon things in early onset puberty. so you may be worrying for nothing.
the most important thing to worry about is protection if you are going to engage in sex. the pill does not protect against std's. (sexually transmitted diseases.) some diseases are minor in nature and are easily cured, but the majority are painful, permanent, and often times deadly.
if you are not comfortable talking too your parents about these issues, go to your guidance counselor at school or look up "planned parenthood" in your local phone book and make an appointment to see a trained specialist.
thats all i have for you i am sorry for you. you need to become educated about certain facts of life before you continue having sexual relationships. failure to do so could ruin your life. i wish you the best.
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