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shes pretending to be someone
15/f
alright well one of my really close friends (15/f) has only made out with a guy once. i dont think anything of it but shes embarrassed by it.
.. so this past weekend she went to her campfriends house and met some of her guy friends. she came home telling me that she likes this kid and he liked her.. but they didnt hook up. she tells me to talk to him for her once in a while to make her seem 'cool' and 'experienced'. i did this once or twice to get them kind of started, but now she keeps telling me to tell him lies. for example she wanted me to tell him she been to 3rd. shes pretending to be someone who shes not.
i was recently going to mention this to her, but i was afraid i would hurt her feeling or she would take it the wrong way. should i confront her? and if yes.. what should i say?
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Remind her that not all guys like thier girls easy but they all like 'em honest.
She'll only be stressing out to live up to her lies if she ever gets anywhere with this guy. She's only making her own life harder.
Tell her you are happy to tell him that she is cool, because she is! But if she wants to lie to him, she'll need to do that herself.
Better you hurt her feelings a bit now, then become a partner to her lying games.
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You should tell her you are not going to lie
for her anymore. If she wants to tell him lies,
she needs to do it herself.
You might also let her know that with that
knowledge he will think she is easy and will
only go out with her for that reason. If not,
he will think she is a little to slutty for him.
Either way it doesn't make her look very good.
Just tell her as of today, you will no longer
pass along messages of any kind. :)
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Definitely. Why should she feel the need to lie to impress guys? If she does, they're obviously the wrong guys to begin with. and in the end, they'll probably know she's lying anyway. Lies always get out.
Tell her you don't feel comfortable lying about her to them. If she doesn't like what you have to say, it's her problem - not yours.
You shouldn't have to get involved in other peoples lies. If she wants to do it so much, tell her to get someone else to lie for her or do it herself.
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