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Please dont judge me...
I've had a friend for about 3 going on 4 years,
we've never been anything more than friends but I liked him and he liked me at a time too.
We lost our virgnity to eachother once and got into this fight and didnt talk to much for a few monthes.
We made up and became friends again[i never stopped liking him]
He acted like he liked me ,but we still didnt go out.
Since about June,we've both been sexually active without ONLY eachother
but we aren't going out,but at the same time I still like him but i feel like its been way to long to tell him ,and he said he used to like me but idk about now.
And i learned about something called oxytocin,or "love glue" and i feel like im really attached to him ,because i havent been able to get over him no matter what,but ive been able to get over other guys i HAVENT had sex with,which i havent had sex with anyone except him ...
Do you think he's attatched to me to..?
I know its wrong to do stuff with someone your not going out with,and i dont have sex with him just because he wants to ,because i want to as well,but i dont know im kind of confused...
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If things continue the way that they are now someone's going to get hurt. In all likelihood that someone is going to be you. Tell him that while you enjoy having sex and all that you want a relationship and commitment. If you can't get that you need to keep it strictly a friendship.
Right now he has the ability and you do too to date other people and be intimate with them. Either ask him how he feels and get into a relationship or keep it strictly friends. If your emotions can take it make a pact that you can see other people and know that before doing anything else. This seldom works though as people get jealous and drift apart. The only way to see where things stand is to confront him on it.
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your virginity is a very big thing. alot of times people become attatched to the person they lost their virginity to, especially if their is strong feelings involved first and thats the only person youve ever done it with. becarefull with your feelings. and you cant relle tell from the info given whether hes attatched to u or not.
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Be careful.
Every woman Ive ever met has become very attached to their first. Its natural. You don't want to let that go.
But... being in love with someone who is not in love with you is something that tears people up inside.
There may come a time when you have to walk away. You cannot be friends with someone you are in love with who isnt returning it. He is attached to you on some level, but I cannot say how far that goes without knowing him and talking to him.
Talk to him. Be honest. Tell him that you care for him as more than a friend and you want him to be yours, and to be his. See if he responds to that.
If not, its probably time to move on. You will have to eventually, and the longer things go the harder that gets.
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Sweetheart,
This seems to me like you genuinely love him, if you feel this way very strongly you should tell him. And guys they act like they don't feel attracted to a girl sometimes but inside they are bursting for them. You lost your virginity to him and so did he to you there is something there and honey don't lose that spark. Just go for it. and if your disappointed at least you tried and know the truth.
Mandy
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I think you should talk to him about your feelings. It has never been too long to tell someone how you feel about them.
I mean, we can go around and around about sounds like he likes you or doesn't, but the only way you will know for certain is to ask him how he feels about you.
You have been friends for a long time, and you are having sex with each other, so there is no reason you shouldn't feel comfortable talking to each other about your thoughts and feelings.
ygs-29/f
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