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molested/need somebody to talk to
When i was 9 until i was 11 i was molested by my brother, who was in high school at the time. I come from an upper class family with overly protective parents so it is one of those things nobody ever thought could have happened to me.
the molestation went so far some would call it rape, i'm not sure. He would make me do things to him, and him to me, and if i said no he would make me feel ashamed for "not liking it" he made me feel discusting for it also, and would threaten me if i told. i sometimes would cry when he did this, and he made me have "sex talks" with him. finally one day i told him i didnt want to do this again, i was so scared i was bawling and shaking. he stopped because he thought i was going to tell, but he had ways of keeping me quiet.
now i'm 16, almost 17, and this experience haunts me. I have issues with my boyfriend, have horrible horrible nightmares, i've acted out been suicidal... that's just the surface of the problem really.
Everybody says, "tell somebody" but nobody understands. Because of this i've spent alot of my life acting out and looking for attention, my brother is a nice funny guy who everybody loves. Not alot of people have seen his darker side. Nobody would believe me, and i say that with 100% certainty. My family would turn on me and it would make life even more miserable.
he's so good at pretending it never happened, sometimes i wonder if he has any remorse at all.
My brother is now almost graduated from college and is not home very often, which is good for me. I am not really afraid of him anymore, I am, but I talk to him sometimes and do normal brother-sister stuff. i do not think he has done this to anybody else, and i've kept a close eye on it.
He's moved on with his life, but I am deteriorating. I can't explain everythign that has happened through this, but i've tried everything to help me through this and nothing works. I need somebody to talk to about this, someody who I can e-mail (rather IM) and help me. I cannot seek professional help because I am underage and don't have much money. I need somebody to talk to because I am tired of being sick like this. So please respond if you would be willing to help me
and please, no twelve year old girls or people who only want to talk once or twice. I really appreciate that you care, but you really can't help me. nd I understand if you do not have the time or experience to understand what I am talking about and decide not to respond. I just need to heal from this
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I am really sorry to hear this.. i mean, i can't even imagine wat your going through. i can't say i know how you feel, because i've never been through the same thing. that's really sad that there's people out there that do that kinda stuff. i mean, i know it's your brother and all, and maybe he's changed now, i honestly have no clue, but he shouldn't have done what he done. but i would really love to talk to you and you can talk it all out to me.. but keeping it in isn't gonna help at all.. and ur really brave to ask to talk to somebody about this..well my email address is Soldia4Christ_1@yahoo.com so, just write me and i'll definately write you back!! i love to talk to people and try to help them out!
oh and i agree with the other person, Joyce Meyers is really good.. she has a lot of good books.. oh yeah, and my messenger id is skylalou_1 if you have messenger and all.. well, i hope to hear from you soon!! ttyl Skyla 17/f
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Razhie has offered you great advice. But, if you still feel like you need to talk to someone, feel free to e-mail me: hippotwo@comcast.net
I have some experience in what you are talking about, so I might be able to help. But as Razhie said, all of us on this website are only volunteers and won't be able to provide professional help.
~Maria, 16
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You know what would help you a lot? if you are christian or catholic or whatever, this minister writes books. her name is Joyce Meyer. her show is everyday at 6AM. she has books on things like "confidence" and "how to accept love" and just all that good stuff. really any self-help would be good. go to the library and get a few, no one has to know.
i cant imagine going through something like this, but you just have to think to yourself that you have your whole life ahead of you and you need to stompon this and leave it in the past.
dont let this ruin your life anymore. tell yourself that you can move on from it. what your brother did was terrible and most people don't ever get over something like that. but tell yourself you're gunna be one of the few that does get over it : )
if you need to talk my aim is Veoom17
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I don't mean to be negative at a time when you really need to hear something positive, but this might just not be the best resource for you hun.
Our columnists are great and wonderful people, but they are by and large, well meaning young teens who care, but can be of limited help.
I'd like to suggest this instead, it's a toll free number that you can call and speak to someone who DOES understand, who has been trained to help and might have gone through something similar to you. They are volunteers, so you'll just be talking to another person, no pressure, but a much more capable person than you might find here. They wont pressure you to 'tell' and it is completely anonymous.
USA Rape, Abuse and Incest Hotline:
1-800-656-HOPE (1-800-656-4673)
They also have a LIVE online chat with counselors too, right here: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Please consider using these resources. Reaching out is a huge step, so make sure you are reaching out to people who can really be good to you, not someone who will care, but add to your frustration and confusion.
If you don't live in the USA drop me a line. I'd be happy to find a resource you can access.
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comewhatmayx8
I haven't been though anything like that but I would like to talk to you to make you feel better.
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you need to take it step by step.
i never went through anything like this, and couldnt possibly imagine the pain and suffering you have been through, but if you email me, i will be there to talk to you and help you out to the best of my ability.
xasktiffany@yahoo.com
xxtiffany
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