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TRUST ISSUE!!!!
sooo after my last question, everyone told me i should take my chance with Jay, so i did. and we've been together for 3 days i think. and two days ago he said he loved me and cared about me more than anyone. my last bf said that, too. and he swore he would never hurt me. emotionally, i mean. and he still did. and i let him say he loves me and i believed him so i started loving him too and then it scarred me for life after he broke it off. now i dont know if i should trust Jay with my heart, or if the glue is still drying. (talking metaphorically here, sorry) how will i know that hes not going to hurt me? how will i know who to trust with my love?
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well..........at your age(idk what it is, im guessing your a young person) you shouldnt really be looking for real true love because in mid/high school, it just isnt there. guys are still immature jerks and will do whatever and say whatever to get to a pretty girls heart. my advice to you, is just take it slowly and dont tell him you love him until you actually feel like you really do. honestly you dont know when someone i about to hurt you. its this unpleasant spontaneous action that happens to most of us. hope this helps!
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i am in this situation right now. except i broke it off with my last bf, but for a while i thought he was the "one". my current bf has had alot of gf's in the past and quite recently too. he cheated on too of them and tends to lie alot. he has told me many of the things your new bf told you. i know your wonder how you could be with someone like that but it happens. i can't completely trust him yet and weve been together 3 months. i think it takes time and be smart if you learn to fully trust this guy with your heart b/c it can easly be broken. i try to keep in mind that i love my bf but that he has made stupid mistakes that he would possibly make again..
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You wont really know if he is going to hurt you until it happens. I wouldn't tell anyone you love them until you really know it is for sure.. A lot of the time people say they love eachother but they dont really mean it. I woudln't trust him until he shows you they you can trust him. Wait it out.. feel it out... make sure you follow your heart and worry about yourself before him! So that you dont hurt yourself.
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Sad fact is you will NEVER know if you don't take that risk. You have to give your heart before you know he will break it. You have to give your love before you know you can trust to give it to someone.
We all get our hearts broken, stabbed, and trampled on in this life. We can't live a happy and fulfilling life if we keep our hearts locked up in order to try to protect it from pain. In the long run, keeping it locked up will only cause more heartache than anything.
The old saying rings true: "It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."
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