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why would he say he loves me?
16/f.
I met a guy online (very stupid idea, I know.) and well...we started talking on MSN (he's 18) for a couple of months. and then he starts telling me he cares for me. then in a week, he loves me and he has a major crush on me.
I'm like...wait wait...hold up..WHAT? You don't even know me..!
My question is....is it possible to actually feel love online?
He keeps on insisting it and I don't know if he's bullshitting me.
Advice?
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I have to say, it is possible to care about someone online, but it's just as possible he's just trying to bs you. I myself met my girlfriend of more then two years on the internet. We exchanged emails, and called each other. I was going to be in her area one time, so we agreed to meet at her local library. Her brother came with her, but that was cool. It shows she was smart. You never know if the person you are meeting is actually the same person you thought you were or not. You just have to be careful, and make sure he's not messing with you.
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It's impossible to know whether or not he means that he loves you or if he is only saying it. I do think person can love people he/she knows online. I have friends that I only know online that I care very deeply for and I'd call that love. I would even say that people can fall in love online. If someone can fall in love at first sight, they can surely fall in love online.
Let's look at it this way. How many dates do a couple need before they may feel love? Now think of how many hours there would be put in on those dates. You have couples that think they are in love within two weeks of dating. Let's say that's 6 dates at 5 hours each which totals 30 hours. It's not hard to log 30 hours with someone online in a few months. Also, if you are chatting, it's not like going to a movie or dinner where much of the time is dedicated to not talking.
The guy may feel he has a deeper understanding of what's in your mind and heart. If he is sincere, I would speculate that maybe the guy is a bit new to chatting or girls. Maybe he just hasn't felt this close before.
I do agree with others that if you are uncomfortable to be cautious. Maybe you should distance yourself as well. But the guy may mean everything he says and may be telling the truth.
I do think part of this is because of the difference in men and women. Young guys often develop feelings for girls without actually dating the girl. The guy has a class with a girl, he falls for her and after longing he finally confesses his love only to scare the daylights out of the girl. Sound familiar? lol
First off, be safe. If you feel safe and okay about everything and like his company but dont want his advances, be nice if you can. You can give him the ultimatum of frienship only or no more contact. If need be, you can spend less and less time talking to him and eventually just go away.
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Emotions do not stop when someone logs on online.
That being said, a love that exists only online is a shallow love. You cant possibly know a person from them online.
Yes, he believes he loves you. No, its not the deep seated emotion that comes from learning a persons quirks, their ins and outs.
Id stop talking to him. Meeting people online isnt a bad thing, but you dont want to get involved with someone who is going to fall for you online before you even meet. It means that he wants to be in love and you are just a convenient target.
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Stop talking to him.
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He might be "in love" with you, from the online phase. But it isn't real love (in my opinion). To actually love someone, you must spent time with him, not just chatting away online. Who knows, he could totally be bull shitting everything he says to you, or vise versa (not saying you are a liar or anything). I understand the chatting to him is just for fun, but if he does make you uncomfortable, then you should probably stop. I mean, you probably won't meet him anyway (and I think that would be the best option). Like stated before, he could be a major predator. Just watch your back, and don't give out your whole life story.
Hope this helps!! :] ♥
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ok from personal experience it is possible to fall in love online but that does not mean that he is in love with you he could just be after you but you can never relly tell. if he really makes you feel uncomfortable then you should stop tlkn to him and if you feel ok with it the keep going but rmbr be carefull and dnt give out too much information bout yourself cuz also frm experince it isnt a smart idea
hope i helped,
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He probably isn't bullshitting you. He probably is actually that stupid.
Stop talking to him hun. He makes you uncomfortable, you don't trust him and you obviously have a very different idea of what 'love' entails. There is no reason to keep speaking to him as much, or to be taking him so seriously. Take a step back.
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Well, it's possible that he's "in love" with the person he THINKS you are. But if you've only been talking a few months, and have never met in person... and if YOU actually feel like he doesn't know you... then he can't possibly be in love with the REAL you. He's in love with an idea... just like someone can fall in love with a celebrity they've never met.
The other possibility is that he's saying that in order to gain your trust, but he's actually some kind of weirdo. You just never know.
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I think you're really only going to get personal opinions, rather than facts - my personal opinion is that you can't. I know people say they do, and maybe some of them do, but I don't understand it at all. You're right to trust your instincts, you never know, you may have a major predator on your hands. I wouldn't talk to him anymore, especially, since I don't believe he's being sincere. Most likely, if you think he isn't tell you the trust, he isn't. Trust your instincts.
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