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BF Erection Problem
My boyfriend and I are both 20 years old, we've been dating almost two years. We have been sexually active for some time and never had a problem.
Last night, though, he seemed to be having some male issues. That is, getting hard enough to have good sex. He was able to keep it up enough to get off once, but it was pretty obvious there was a problem. He was very embarassed and I feel bad for him, it's the first time it has happened to us. Any advice on what I should say to him? Or what the reason for this could've been? Thanks
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This happened once with my ex-boyfriend an I. He had never had a problem with not being able to get it up until this one time. We had been messing around the whole day and when it finally came time to have sex, he couldn't get it up anymore because it had been up for so long during the day. So don't let him feel bad or don't let yourself feel bad, maybe you were too hot for him to handle. If he had been really hard for a while before you guys started having sex, that could be the reason he couldn't keep it up much longer. Its just one time, don't let it get to him/you. :)
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Hi Darl,
I'm not sure the actual reason as it was probably a personal reason. Don't act strange or weird in front of him there are two ways you can do it either ignore it and pretend it never happened or the better option which is to talk through it with him and sort out his problems for him as a girlfriend.
Mandy
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The two people under me have got why it might have happened covered. But, as to what to say, don't say anything unless he brings it up. Pretend that nothing ever happened because the last thing he needs is for you to think it was a big deal, which it wasn't. It's only happened once, no biggie, he had an off night. Next time y'all get to things, pretend it never happened. Guys don't usually like talking about not being able to get it up.
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Loads of things can cause problems with erections - drinking too much, certain medications, being tired, etc. It's not necessarily about you or the relationship.
It's a rare man who hasn't had this problem at one point or another. If this is an isolated occurance, it's probably nothing to worry about. Be aware that if he feels really uncomfortable about it, it could make it more difficult for him to get an erection the next time you have sex - so think carefully about what you will say before you say it!
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When a man gets an erection blood rushes to the penis. It was proven that some sexual positions where more blood is able to go to the penis an erection lasts longer and strong. However, this could have been the opposite for you boy friend. He could have been in a position where not enough blood was reaching his genital and it went more limp. Other than that I doubt it's Erectile Disfuntion (seems to young for that! a no problem before). It could be that he wasn't in the mood as well.
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maybe he just doesn't get as turned on as he used to. maybe you should try some new stuff. or he could have been masturbating earlier that day and he just wasn't horny enough. i wouldn't mention anything unless it happens again next time you have sex. then i would ask if either of the two things i mentioned are the case.
<33 good luck
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