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friend with benefits / cheating ?
okay so
i've been seeing this guy Jacob for about 5 months now .
he lives with his best friend robert.robert and his ex Lucy broke up 2 weeks ago
well Robert is a very jealous person.
Jacob promised robert he wouldnt do anything with lucy. but robert made sure all of his friends didnt do anything with lucy. well jacob and i were kinda official but now we're just like not as serious.
well i know jacobs password for myspace but he thinks i forgot it...anyway, i see a message from lucy saying "i hate how we have to hide our friendship"
he replies
"yah i know it sucks but wait til i move out"
so last week jacob calls me and says, "if anyone calls just say im with you." and i said "okay but why"
he then said, "i'm going to hang out with a few friends and lucy is in the group and i told robert i wouldnt talk to her "
so i was like "okay whatever"
then he texts me the next day @ 6AM saying "goodnight baby.if anyone ask i was with you til 6AM"
so he hasnt called since tuesday so i call him blocked and just see if hes alive
so from tuesday -thursday i call blocked and later on thursday at about 11pm i was with my cousin and he calls and says "i know its you thats calling, give up."
so i denied it and my cousin took the blame.
so friday i was with this my friends cuz they were making fun of jacob and how he got in an accident so i sent jacob a text saying "i'm with my friends right now and the story they're telling me about your last accident is pretty funny"
so like 2 minutes later he calls and bitches at me saying
"how is it funny that i got in an accident"
i told him
"i'm not saying its funny, i'm saying the story i'm listening to is funny, cuz its so different from the one you told me"
well saturday i go on his myspace and read a message to lucy saying
"heyy cutie im at my parents and im just misssin you thinkin that you should be in my arms its like 446 i called you and a older guy answered sayin i had the wrong number i think it was your dad well anyways ill c you on sunday <3 your daddy JaCOB "
I cried so much. not just for me but for robert too because robert is really nice and he doesnt deserve to be betrayed and backstabbed by his best friend
so jacob is supposed to hang out with lucy today but whenever he hangs out with her he uses the excuse that hes with ME.
so i have a few options
-call robert and tell him all this
*but theres a possibility that robert might kick him out & jacob will find out it was me that told and he'll never talk to me again*
-leave it alone
-confront jacob about it
*but i might lose his trust because he doesnt know i know his myspace passowrd*
i know its wrong of me to invade his privacy, but i asked him yesterday if he liked her and he said no
someone help me
advice or something
thanks :]
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I agree..with the person below me...tell him friend..and then move on..he's not worth your time...you may not be able to see it now..but when you find a guy...who doesnt act like a boy..and knows how to treat a lady...then you will definately realize..
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if i were you i would tell his roommate and screw him.. you don't deserve to be hurt like that ;; cheaters are ASSHOLES 5 months is a long time
and his commitment to his best friends promise is a big deal just tell your friend you didn't hear it from you I'm sure that if you told him he'd be greatful and not screw you over. i wouldn't even talk to him about it just STOP talking to him and if he starts calling you don't pick up and if he starts calling on blocked numbers don't pick up then finally do and be like "i know its you thats calling, give up."
if your attached to him and love him
its not worth it dont even try he's a scumbag
and everybody deserves better then a cheating, lieing, promice breaking, ass.
sorry about your situation =[
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I don't think you should confront Jacob because then he may just break it off with you, leaving him with Lucy (still). Which would mean that he hasn't changed. Currently he is just using you, so it doesn't sound like he's a good person/friend at all so you shouldn't care about him losing "trust" in you. You should tell Robert, he deserves to know and will thank you for it. If you were in his shoes, I think you'd want to know that your ex is having a fling with your best back stabbing friend? So all I'm saying is that it would probably be the right thing to do, and even though Robert and Jacob would lose their friendship etc etc he would mostly likely be kicked out.. it's what he deserves until learning his lesson (if he does?). And till then, you shouldn't feel bad, remember that you're doing the right thing by telling Robert.
hope I helped in some way (:
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ok i think you should tell robert because (THINK)jacob is cheating on you and why would you care about somebody that would do that to you.. you 2 havent been going out long enough to be alll in love so i think you should tell robert becuase jacob is putting you through stress.Forget what jacob will do; think about yourself and your feelings.Stop being his excuse
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tell robert.
jacob doesnt seem like a very nice person, and why would he do that to his so called "best friend" that doesnt seem like a friendship. im sure jacob wouldnt think it was you. if he trusts you not to say anything, then he wouldnt think it was you. it could be anybody else. but yeah, talk to robert you'll feel a lot better.
hope i helped.
:]<3 casia
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Okay, he`s using you, which isn`t smart on his part after you`ve been helping him ... especially if you two have been seeing each other.
Seriously, I would just stop telling everyone that your with him. If he`s being sweet to you sometimes, it`s just so you won`t turn your back on him & stop covering for him when he needs you to. HE needs to take responsibility for HIS actions, not you. He`s just being selfish. If he`s randomly getting mad at you after you`ve been trying to help him, he`s just plain stupid & you really don`t deserve that. And if Robert is his best friend, then Jacob`s a HORRIBLE friend to that kid. And personally, I think Robert should know that he`s being stabbed in the back by the person who he 'thinks' is his best friend. Because normally when people think they`re protecting someone & then they find out some other way, everthing`s just worse.
Wait till he asks you to cover for him again. Then you just flat out say, "No." Obviously, he`ll get mad, but you know what? Don`t let it bother you. Trust me, you`re better off without him. When he asks you why, tell him that you`re tired of him using you & he`s gotta take the responsibility for his own actions. DON`T MENTION THE MYSPACE THING! If you somehow bring up the Lucy thing, just say that someone told you & don`t give him any names.
Good luck!
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tell robert.
just how much do you like this jacob person? how often does he talk to you now? Do you really like a guy who's backstabbing his best friend and using you?
you've already tried confront jacob and it's obvious that he's willing to lie and hide things from you.
Just go tell Robert. He deserves to know. If you're really worried, just tell him not to tell Jacob you told him. Besides, I'm sure Robert would find out eventually. these kind of things never stay quiet for too long.
(well in that case you could also leave it alone and let someone else tell robert. since obviously other people have seen jacob and lucy have been hanging out)
But really it's still your choice in the end. Whatever makes you feel better. In fact, if you really rather not get involved then do just that. Refuse to cover for him. Tell him that if he wants to go hang out with lucy, then he can deal with Robert himself.
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Ok girl, my honst opinion, i think he's cheating on you. You need to confront him on this, you shouldnt leave this alone, cuz he'll keep doing it. I would say something like this. "Look jake, you know i care about you, but i have to ask you something. You've been spending alot of time with lucy lately, and i.....look... i saw her message on your myspace, whats going on?" Trust me, you dont wanna let a guy treat you like this.
Hope i helped
~Alorra
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