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love..
okayi dont understand why people say.. theres no such thiing in the world as love at a younge age..
i mean feelings are feelings
i just want your opinions
on what you think of it
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Well thts not entirely true...it honestly just depends on the people. Some people will find love at a young age where as other won't find it til they're really old. it really just depends on the people who r becoming a couple. Some people will say they love someone but what they don't realize is tht they rnt in love with tht person, they just love them. Hope this helped a little bit!
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I've spent so much time pondering this question and the idea of not being able to fall in love until you reach an older age.
My conclusion or philosophy is this:
Love is all too often confused with lust. I know of so many younger kids (ages 11-12-13) that say "I love you" to their "boyfriends" or "girlfriends" and really have no idea what it means.
Love is something you rarely find at that young of an age. The reason I think kids that age continue to say it, is they feel more grown up and they honestly think they're in love, because it's new to them and they automatically think "I'm in love!" when it's really just hormones ;]
You know, you see it on T.V. or in a movie and think that's exactly what you're going through. Though chances are, it isn't at all.
But as you get older, around my age 15-16, feelings become more real. I know first hand how feelings towards the person you're in a relationship with change. They become deeper, and you become more emotionally attatched. You start realzing when you were 12, you weren't in love, it was just something new and you thought it was real, true love.
Then you get even older, college/marriage age and you've matured and expirience all those feelings of lust at the younger ages. Then you find somebody and you KNOW it's love because it's completely different than anything you've previously felt. Get it?
It's like a graph, the feelings gradually get deeper and you begin starting to know what love is like. Then you really DO fall in love, for real, and it's on a whole different chart. If that makes any sense?
Bottom line:
I personally think it takes time to even begin to remotely understand the basics of love. We start, with feelings of affection at the young ages, lust at my age, and then deep, passionate, real love at young adulthood.
I'm not saying you have to reach adulthood to fall in love, because you most certinely do not, I'm just explaining how it goes for most people I guess. I hope this helps answer your questions.
-Laura. (15-f)
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no, i do not think that there is a certian age for love
feelings are feelings
dont listen to anyone that tells you other than that==]
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Absolutely, feelings are just feelings. They can’t be helped.
However, that doesn’t mean every feeling is accurately labeled by the person experiencing it.
For instance, many people will say that they are worried about someone, when it fact they are only jealous. I have a friend who claims to ‘hate’ me if I can’t make time to go to the movies with her… She does not hate me. She is just disappointed but rather call the feeling hate.
Calling it hate doesn’t make it hate.
The man who beats his wife because he loves her, doesn’t really love her.
The women who cheats and lies and steals all the while saying she loves her boyfriend, doesn’t really love him.
Calling it love doesn’t make it love.
Evidence of love is in action and in choices, not in the feeling. The feeling isn’t enough for love. Seriously. Feelings come and go and change. Feelings get forgotten for a while. No one who relied entirely on their feelings, would ever stick with a loving relationship.
So why do we tell young people they aren’t in love? Because it doesn’t take too many more years of life to learn the warning signs. It doesn’t take much brain power to realize what love isn’t, and in ninety percent of the questions here, it is pretty obvious that there is no loving action or choice taking place. They can call it love all they want, it still isn’t.
Read these two questions, and both questioners use the words love. Do you think they are using the word in the right way? Or would you call them confused about love?
www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=517380
www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=517132
There are million of examples on this site of people who say they are in love, or say they know they are loved, where any sensible person could see that loving action and choice are missing.
It is a tough thing in this world but you need to remember that just because you need to respect everyone, doesn’t make them right. I can respect the fact that someone believes themselves to be in love, just the way I could respect someone who thinks, say, that Across the Universe was a fabulous movie, but I can still disagree and argue with them all I want!
Now I won’t say a teen is incapable love, only that more often then not, they mislabel the feeling and misuse the word. No one here (well no one should be) saying that these kids who say they are ‘in love’ are horrible or stupid. They are only just confused and they are learning. The reason we tell they are confused is because we all hope for them to be able to learn, and not get stuck in the relationship partners of teenager, because it can get sooo much better!
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