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I feel horrible for this
I have two really great friends. Rachel and Megan. Rachel is like EXACTLY like me(we like the same stuff,same everything) and have the same "moral standings". But Megan is exact oppisite of me. She has pretty much no morals at all.
Well one day in Volley ball we had to choose partners and i automaticaly go for Rachel. And in Science, and History and Math i do the same thing. Idk why but i really don't ever pick Megan, and i feel horrible about it. I just don't like the way she goes about things. She is a bad student(gets C's and D's and sometimes F's) and Rachel and I are straight A's.
I don't know how to envolve Megan and idk if she is even like a friend to me.
How can i envolve her. And in your opion am i being a bad friend? I don't want to be that way anymore. HELP
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You're not being a bad friend because it doesn't sound like you're intentionally trying to hurt Megan by leaving her out. Megan may be a bad student and she may be completely different than you are. But think of it this way: Megan has feelings. I used to be the third wheel in a group of three and it made me feel terrible every time they ran off together not giving me a second thought. I'm know you're not trying to make her feel this way, but Megan is probably very hurt seeing you and Rachel partner up without her. Try this: get to know Megan a little bit more and notice the positive things about her. When you and Rachel are together try to include her (you can ask the teacher if you can make a group of three). By paying as much attention to Megan as you do to Rachel, it will really make Megan feel good to know that you care about her, even if you do like Rachel more inside.
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Just to add input of my own to what everyone else said;
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You are not being a bad friend. Good grades are essential in a good education- obviously. Maybe try to pick Megan for sporty things , and Rachel for educational projects and such. That way, there is a fair balance.
Hope I helped.
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I really don't think you're being a bad friend. Schoolwork is extremely important, and there is nothing wrong with trying to keep your grades high. However, you are right she may feel left out. Start hanging with her outside of school. Possibly pick as a partner in volleyball next time you can. Just because you don't want to include her in schoolwork doesn't mean you have to exclude her from everything else.
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You know what- honestly- you're looking out for yourself in school [like with the science example] and that is perfectly alright. If you don't want to be partners with a C student- then you shouldn't have to. I have straight As, and you say you do to. I know how you feel when it comes to wanting to get good grades. Its important for college to get good grades. Sure- its nice to hang out with your friends- but why should your friend bring you down. I'm sure people are going to disagree with me- but like I said- looking out for yourself in school is actually the smartest thing you can do.
Maybe try to hang out with Megan a little more outside of school/volleyball. She might feel left out- but don't feel like you have to work with her in school- especially if you want to succeed- no matter how greedy or selfish that sounds. Maybe get a tradition going with you, Rachel and Megan. See a movie every week? Have a pizza and movie night?
And I certainly don't think you're being a bad friend. =D
--Jack
(15/m)
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I know how you feel. I think if Megan's important to you, you could include her the same way you include Rachel. Maybe you helping her & including her will help her become a better person & student. I'm sure Rachel wouldn't mind if you picked Megan to be your partner every once in a while, and Rachel could also help you include Megan, so then nobody would feel left out.
Hope that helps :]
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