|
im depressed.
sorry if this gets long, but i appreciate anyone who anwsers.
in the last two days i've lost over like seriously 5 friends. one of which imed me and told me about 5 people who think im a slut! one of which i like. but just met that day. because i typed that i cut myself.
im crying nonstop all the time, i hate who i am. ive been having suicide thoughts nonstop. im emotionally dead basically, and im hurting myself physically. i cant ask anyone for help, ill just scare them away /=
i used to be like this on and off, usually on, since 5th grade, i dont want pain anymore. i told everyone not to talk to me, im going to delete my myspace account.
one girl imed me telling me i have to give up a friendship for a while because of this kids girlfriend needing help, when i need it just as much. i feel like im a sob story. but im dead serious. i need help from anyone!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Sexual Health and Reproduction category?
Maybe give some free advice about: General Sex Questions?
I've been where you are.
From the time that I was 11, until about the age of 15, I mutilated my body, either by burning, cutting, or scratching myself. You need to find someone to talk to, someone trustworthy, and not judgemental.
For the longest time I thought that mutilating myself was a form of "pain reliever", emotionally anyways. But harming yourself physically will not rid you of your problems.
It took a really long time for me to realize that, it almost became a habit, kind of like taking tylenol for a headache. Whenever I got depressed, I went for a lighter, razor.. whatever I could find.
Ignore those people that talk crap about you; in 10 years, none of those people that matter. People are going to talk about you all day long, no matter how nice, caring,etc. you are. There's shady people everywhere you go. You just have to learn to become immune to their words.
I wish you luck. Feel free to contact me anytime if you need someone to talk to.
]
There are no two ways about it- you need help! Professional help, that is. Not advice from friends and certainly something more substantial than IM'ing each other.
If you are cutting and having suicidal thoughts then you need to get professional help ASAP. This is not something to play around with.
Have you discussed this with your parents? Do they know that it's this bad or do they just think you're going through the normal teenage mood swings? You need to talk with them if you haven't already. That's number one.
Then you need to see a therapist. They might also refer you to a psychiatrist if they feel that you should be evaluated for meds.
If for some reason your parents won't or can't get you help, then there are other places you can try- one of them is NAMI- nami.org
If you are ever in an emergency situation where you feel you are feeling suicidal- call 911. There are also suicide hotlines, though these people are sometimes volunteers who are not trained professionals, so be aware of this.
Whatever you do, get professional guidance. The way you are talking and acting is not healthy at all. Get yourself better so you can get back to enjoying life again. :)
]
Oh babe...I'm so so sorry you have those thoughts and all that is happening to you...from what I can tell from what happened with me, you have a very serious depression issue. You need to tell your mom that you need to start seeing a Shrink...you need help.
And those girls, screw them for losing your friendship. If you can...go to the friend you trust the most, and ask her about what your old friends are saying...cause I'm thinking that your "friend" who told you that on IM, is just trying to make you feel bad...it does happen sadly. I'm so sorry you are going through this, and I wish you the best of luck. And I hope you feel better soon...if you want to talk about what all you're going through...feel free to ask me...I'll be happy to listen and help you...I've been through this...
Good luck!
~Vera
]
Oye, I've been where you are and I know it sucks. Hopefully what I say won't sound mean or offensive and I'm sorry if it does. I do know that telling you to "get over it" isn't what you need to hear. Anyway, here goes.
I'm betting you know this, but it's hard for people to help when you push them away by telling them not to talk to you. However, it should also be a clue that something is wrong and maybe they should be concerned. Sadly, there's not much you or I can do about them.
I can tell you that physical injury is addictive and it's a nasty habit to break (been there, done that) but I also know that it's a way to feel SOMETHING. Try this: write. Don't try to write a story or poem, just write whatever comes to mind. Don't edit it, don't worry about grammar, punctuation or anything like that. Just write whatever comes, regardless of how dark or hateful or pathetic it sounds. Rant about your "friends" or parents if you want. No one ever has to read it.
The best thing you can do about the low self-esteem is find something that will make you feel good about yourself. I found that physical activity is a great way to deal with the "fat and ugly" feeling because you're working. Getting the motivation takes work, but trust me, you can do it. All you have to do is go for a 10 minute bike ride, or a walk around the block and get into a habit of it. It's not easy (so maybe "all you have to do" is the wrong phrase), but I've been where you are and it does help.
When you start to feel like this, willpower is hard to have and you do tend to spend money the second you get it, and you start isolating yourself and having no motivation.
I don't know if you have the chance or ability, go speak with a counselor and just tell then you feel miserable and talk. If you can't do that, try the writing thing.
If you really need someone to talk to, you can certainly send me a message in my inbox.
:-) Try your best to find one reason (at least) to smile each day. Everyone has something to give the world (even if it feels like you don't) so don't let it go.
]
LISTEN TO ME !!! =] i had a friend liek that EXACTLY the same the thing is my friend had a friend beside her (me) i helped her out and i think you need to talk to some1 really that will understand you ( guy friend another friend) i dont know i cannot help you only some1 really close to you can and im sorry to say but if your friends drop you like that they aint real friends i no you probably love them alot but if they do that then you no what they aint worth being friends with ... put your mind together agaian tell your self you can and move on take long walks go otuside do thing =s you wouldnt do call some oold friends up dont REMIND YOUR SELF OF WHAT HAS HAPPEND just live in the present and try to make new friends forget who you wore just think of something you can be !! =]
Y&B
]
i think its normal 2 feel this way u gotta just hang in there!
it might be really really hard to do that but all these things are natural, you're just letting them get to your head
how old are you by the way?
anyway if you've lost these 5 friends in such little time, then they weren't your true friends. if they really cared they would have hung in there for you and helped you as much as they could have in your time of need. and i get into fights with my mom all the time about the stupidest things ever! trust me you're not alone. you should really talk to her about these things that you're feeling, it could really help. and if your uncomfortable talking to her, ask if you can talk to a therapist. just try asking. if she won't let you see a therapist try talking to your guidance counselor, that is if your in school, i dont know how old you are so yea. if you feel fat and ugly, don't, because you're not, i guaruntee it. you just have to make yourself believe your not give yourself a compliment evryday, eventually you'll believe it for real! just don't give up. if you want to talk more u can just post and i'll help if you want i'm pretty bored so i have a lot of free time and i give really good advice +D or so i've been told
]
More Questions: |