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Rude Coworker
How can I keep my cool when dealing with a rude coworker?
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Sometimes it's tough.
But the thing that helps me 'keep my cool' sometimes is remembering that I am not perfect either. I'm sure there have been times when someone has found me rude or annoying and I may not have even realized it. When you look at it that way, it helps you to be a little more tolerant of others.
If that doesn't work and the rudeness persists, then instead of getting angry, I just feel sorry for them, and thank my lucky stars that I was taught manners. :-)
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So many people go through this same situation. We aren't always going to like everyone and like how they treat us. In a work environment and dealing with a rude coworker, the best thing you can do is to keep your distance. In addition, keep the relationship strictly professional. Sometimes it's hard not to lash out a comment back when they are rude to us, but that just allows the coworker to futher his rudeness. If you don't respond and ignore it, it decreases and then eventually stops. Also, when you have to interact with him, only discuss work related issues. I know sometimes it is our common nature to try to get on the rude coworker's "good side" so the habits will quit, but really, if you show them you don't have that kind of relationship, they won't try. And lastly, but most importantly, if the rudeness continues PLEASE speak up. First, sternly let your coworker know you don't like their ways and would like it to stop. If you have already done so or don't find improvement then take further action. I know it will seem like tattle tailing, but these are the kinds of issues that need to be brought to management's attention. I suggest going to your group's boss or manager before directly doing to HR, but if your boss doesn't do anything, then proceed to tell HR. For instance, the coworker's rude ways could be direct HR and Ethics violations. You have a right to speak up. Also, make sure to say if you are at fault as well. For example, if you make rude comments back, tell them "I'll be the first to say I say them right back, but I feel like it's gotten to a point that's enough..." Best of luck. :)
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Rude coworker? Lots of people have to deal with those but you don't have to be mean back, keep that in mind (lots of people have that problem) Just keep cool and have a lot of patience and maybe they will come around to you and decide they like you. And be friendly, you don't have to give a smirk and stuff like that when they are rude to you. Just be happy the rest of the day you work. Maybe someday they will come around to you.
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If they are really rude with you, say daily, then you need to report it to the manager and let them deal with the problem.
If they are just being short with you, say every now and then, keep in mind we all have our bad days.
If they are just having a bad day, maybe you can talk to them about what their problem is, or just try to cheer them up. For example, I will act silly or say something funny to get them laughing. That always helped in putting them in higher spirits.
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