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Am I a slut?
This is probably a bit of a weird question but I just wanna know. I am 17/f and have slept with three guys. I've been in relationships with all of them (all 3 of them were virgins before me) and I didn't personally regret it until a few weeks ago, when I was telling my friends how many people I slept with and they were shocked, and said I should regret it. Well, should I? Should I not sleep with any more guys, or maybe wait a while before sleeping with the 3rd guy (my current bf) again? (We've only had sex twice and both times we were pretty drunk, we've been together 2 months.) This might seem stupid but it's something that has been bothering me a lot recently. Btw, I've always used protection too, and would never have sex without it.
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You are the antithesis of the word slut. You were in three different relationships and commited to each person. You decided to have sex in each relationship and that's fine.
You were also responsible and have not been sleeping around or with random people. It's nobody's business to even know let pass judgment on your sex life. You shouldn't care what they think. Having three partners and commited relationships with each is fine.
If you had sex with 10+ partners all of them random then I could understand their reactions. The amount of partners you have had is small number and not to worry over.
My advice to you is to never mix sex with booze. That's one of two mistakes not to repeat. It always leads to disaster or unwanted pregnancy etc. etc.
The second mistake never to make is to tell friends or anyone else about your sex life unless you want them passing comment on it and branding you.
Keep it personal and close to your vest is a good rule of thumb now that you have seen what happens. Your friends are probably all virgins and may not have had relationships, maturity especially and commited relationship experiences you have had so they think the fact you slept with three people is HUGE when it's not.
Should you have sex with your boyfriend again? That's not for me to decide. As long as you are safe, committed etc and the situation is right it's fine. Only you can figure out if you are comfortable with it.
Talk to your partner about your concerns and above all don't let anyone else comment or try to make your decisions for you when it comes to sex.
Keep your friends from getting their nose in this area of your life by applying the "what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom" motto. Next time your friends ask about your sex life tell them "I don't kiss and tell."
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Well it depends. If you really liked all of these guys and as long as your using protection why not? But I would probably slow it down a little cause you don't want people to think you are a slut so just wait until you get married or something. Also how did you get drunk if your 17? THATS BAD!!!!!!!
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A slut's considered someone who's "easy" or "sleeps around town" with everyone. I don't consider you that, taking in fact that you were in relationships with all 3 boys. I think it's not right to have sex if you weren't 100% ready and sure you knew you loved the person truly. If you have doubts about having sex with them, or feeling the least bit of taking it back, then you're in regret about it, and you can't do anything about it. At least you're trying to be safe =] And it wasn't a random hookup or anything, so it's less to consider you a slut. Explain to your friends how you explained this, see how they react then. Either way, your sex life isnt any of their business and should just respect you and your decisions, despite anything.
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No, you aren't a slut.
but you sound exactly like me, because i'm 16 & i've had sex with 4 guys.
At the time, you thought you wanted to be with them & you thought sex was the answer.
There isn't anything wrong with that. You shouldn't regret something that you once thought was the right idea.
But from now on, I think you should consider things before you have sex with anyone else. Actually think about what you are doing before you do it.
I have a boyfriend right now, and he wants to have sex, but I'm waiting & I'm making him wait with me, because I don't want my number to increase to 5 :[
yeah it sounds bad when you say how many guys you've slept with, but if you keep it to yourself & try not to look at it as a bad thing, then maybe you can accept what you've done & not feel so bad about it.
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You decide that for yourself. If you think having sex with those three guys were a bad decision on your part, you might want to rethink it & not have sex until you're ready. Your friends shouldn't be the ones telling you whether to regret something or not. No one can sit here & judge you. You might have made a mistake in other people's opinions, but its your opinion that counts. Next time, seriously think the situation through before acting.
-hope that helped!♥
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Personally- no I would not consider you a slut.
But there are a few tips I want to give you-
1. Only do it if both of you want to and are 100% sure of it.
2. Actually be in a working relationship.
3. Wait a while before you do it with someone the first time. If not they could be using you for sex.
4. And of course as you said- use protection.
Keep your sex life on the downlow. It's not something other people need to know about. And remember its up to you weather you go through with it or not. Sure you can have fun with it, but don't start getting too crazy expecially with a bunch of guys.
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