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a falling friendship
I dont know if i should keep the friends i have right now. All they do is complain about their lives and critize other people and when i complain about my life they are all like im sorry i cant do anything about that. And they are rude like it doesnt even matter to them! One of them never even calls me and shes my BEST FRIEND. she never trys at all, like she always tells me that she never ever askes people to hang out. but i told her she needs to ask me because im her best friend. so i just wanted to see what she would do. and now my other best friend is all like calling her all the time and now they are best friends and they always leave me out. we always have history of alot of drama so this time i really want to make our friendship work. OH YEAHH our other friend went to mexico for the whole summer and all she does is gossips about her... and she gossips about my other best friend too so i bet she gossips about me too. and thats the whole reason we got in a big fight last time because she said I gossip to much! but now i try to hold back and shes being a huge hypercryte. Im moving from San antonio to houston and i dont no if its worth being friends with all of them anymore. i feel like ive matured so much and i dont want to be in a little group of gossip anymore, i want to change for the better and just be alot more independent. do you think i should just not be friends with them or what?
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Hey.
These people do not sound like good friends.
If they don't care about you or call you then don't both with them because you know you can find nicer and better people to hang out with!
And gossiping about other friends of theres isn't a very nice thing to do because why be friends with someone if you gossip about them in a bad way.
I think you should stop being friends with these people because they might end up getting you into some sort of trouble!
HOPE I HELPED!
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i WAS iN THE SAME SiTUATiON AS YOU ARE iN NOW AND i KNOW HOW iT FEELS....iT SUCKS BiG TiME BUT YOU GOTTA REALiZE THAT YOU DONT NEED FRiENDS LiKE THAT....WHAT i DiD WAS STEPPED BACK AND HUNG OUT WiTH OTHER PEOPLE..AND i WAS ALWAYS THERE FOR HER WHEN SHE NEEDED SOMEONE WiTHiN A COUPLE OF WEEKS SHE WAS BACK CALLiN ME AND WANTiN TO HANG OUT EVERY DAY SHE iS LiKE A LOSER GUY THAT AFTER A WHiLE REALiZES YOUR THE BEST AND THEY JUST WENT AFTER SOMEONE WHO DiDNT HAVE SO MUCH TO WORRY ABOUT...JUST STEP BACK i MEAN BE THERE AND BE FRiENDS BUT DONT ALWAYS TRY TO BE UP iN iT...GET NEW FRiENDS AMD REALLY ENJOY LiFE..
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i had a similar situation, except i didnt move cities, just schools. but any sort of moving can break friendships. my advice is to keep in touch, but to me it doenst sound like a friendship that will prevail in life. so keep in touch and keep them as friends, maybe see them everyone once and a while. but start a new life, being the same person you are. but trying to find new friends. and if that means having to go througha few, trust me ive been through that at my new school, and it sucks, but its better to be happy. which you dont seem to be at this moment. once youve got new friendships explain to them in truth that its hard to always hang out so far away, and with your new friendships you want to hold onto those while your in you new city, so you might not have enough time for old friends.
o, and im not ure ifyou mentioned this, but you seem to be feeling left out. i say you should make an effort to hang out. notice how the other girl did and now there closer. while your still in san antonio try yur best to still feel a part, but if that doesnt work, maybe a little alone time to think about what the deal is, is what you need.
these type of situations are very hard, and sometimes the best thing to do is just to let go. but be suttle about it, while you dont cause drama.
and dont be afriad of them saying anything about you behind your back, it may be true, but it WILL happen. and even after you leave if they do, jsut know your leaving and it will be better, your tire dof drama and gossip leave it behind. soon what they say wont matter because truly, wut most gossip is, doesnt matter.
take this into consideration.
hope it helped. Lauren
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I think you should leave them behind along with your old reputation and bad memories, its time to start over since your moving. You should stay aquentinces with them, but dont let them try to include you in their drama.
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