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PLEASE HELP
ok so you know how people get made fun of and other stuff and then they get low self esteem and what not well how do you get a better self esteem ????like be happier with your self
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If i were that person getting made fun of its good to knwo what you like about yourself. for example if its appearance, look in the mirror for one or two things that you like about your self, like your hair or your eyes. if its about things like things you like, for example computers.. i would shrugg them off. peopl only make fun of you because your different. and being different is ohkay. if you were that person and your saying things back to them then your not helping the situation, they know it annoys you so they are going to keep doing it. Another thing you cna do is surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself. i mean i understand that sometimes your going to have to work with people you dont like but for the most part, be with people who liek you for you and are putting you down. hope i helped
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Self esteem is all about what YOU think of yourself... not what others think. Focus on the things you like about yourself, and remind yourself daily of the traits you have that you're proud of.
Of course, we all have some things we don't like about ourselves. And those things fall into two catagories: things we can change, and things we can't change.
If there's something you CAN change, make an effort to change it. Ask for help if you need it. And remember that changes sometimes take time, so be proud of yourself for any steps you make toward your goal. For the things you CAN'T change... forget about them! Don't dwell on it. Laugh about it if you can. If there's nothing you can do about it, there's no need to waste your time worrying about it. Just put it out of your mind and keep focusing on the positive things about yourself.
If you can learn to focus on the good in yourself, and like yourself for who you are, your attitude will shine through and affect how others see and treat you. The bullies who make fun of people pick victims that are "easy targets"... people who they know they can hurt. Someone who is confident and happy and comfortable with themself is not going to be hurt by bullying, so the bullies will leave them alone.
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Two things. You have to be happy with yourself and confident! Also compliments from other people are a plus! You can probably change something about yourself! New hair, clothes, jewelery, etc.
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I totally know what you mean...and my sister taught me something that always helped me...all you have to do is that whenever you think of something bad about yourself...think of something good! Also remember... you are your own worst enemy...so nobody can bring you down...they only say that to make themselves feel better...next time they say ANYTHING to you...just ignore them...they are not even worth the waste of breath! Hope this helped you! Bye!
Good Luck and Best Wishes,
Breezy:)
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Unfortunately during the course of almost all of our lives we are going to get put down, made fun of, etc. The key is to not let it get to you that badly. I know that is so much easier said than done. But, it is possible. Individuals that choose to pick on other people are simply acting out of severe immaturity and personal insecurities. The bad part is, the person getting made fun of let's it drag them down as well. You have to force yourself to stay positive. Compliment yourself. Confidence is a good thing. It can be very attractive to others. You know who you are and so do your good friends, family, and any other people you choose to spend your time with and sourround yourself with. Hard as it may be, brush off what the other people say. If you show that it is getting a rise out of your or affecting you, they'll continue. No reaction results in an end to it all. Going along with the compliment thing, I would suggest this: every day, write yourself a little "pick-me-up" note. Try writing it on a sticky note and placing it on your bathroom mirror or some place you go by frequently. Remind yourself of all your great characteristics. It's okay to have flaws, and it's even okay for others to point those out to us sometimes, but not if it is with malicious intent. In addition, next time someone puts you down or makes fun of you, compliment THEM. Don't insult them as well. You would simply be stupping to their level. Another suggestion would be to splurge on yourself. Go get a new hair cut, by a new fun outfit, have a girls day out with your closet friends, read a motivating book, find a new hobby. Remember, you are your own worst enemey in the end. :)
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