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Grandpa Died
This will sound horrible but here goes the story. I was and am not really close to my dad's side of the family. I'm in total love with my mom's side but I basically loath my dad's side of the family--not my dad, though. It's mainly b/c his family hates us b/c of my mom--long story short: they hate us and they're total bitches to us. Anyways, well, my grandpa on my dad's side died today.
With the exception of our family, the rest of our whole entire fmaily lives in S. Korea [We live in US] So my dad is going to fly out there tomorrow or on Monday so he can attend the ceremony thingers. Well, the problem is that I feel really bad b/c I don't feel anything about my grandpa's death. I mean I was never close to him, I talked to him a couple of times--most of which being getting him a glass of water or something. Anyways, I guess what my question is:
What am I suppose to do? I don't feel a thing about my grandpa's death and I don't know how to comfort my dad. I'm just a useless person sitting there not really caring about the fact that my granpa died 3 hrs ago. Or am I in denial. GAH I don't know what I'm in. Help?
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You're not supposed to do anything. Although you didn't know your grandfather & didn't care for him, it's alright to mourn. Don't cry your eyes out though because in a way, it'd make no sense.
Just tell your father that you're there for him & that you love him. But don't beat yourself up for not feeling anything. Death is a normal thing & very good part of life in some cases. Numbness is something I usually feel when people die as well.
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Understand this:there is NOTHING wrong with you.If you didn't really care about him in the first place,there's no reason to just because he's dead.Don't even try to make yourself believe that you should care,because honestly,why start giving a shit about someone because something completely unavoidable happened to them?He's dead,and that's that.
Too often are people remembered just for the fact that they're dead when they weren't cared about in the first place.Don't be one of the people that thinks that people deserve glorification in death.
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It's perfectly normal that you don't feel anything towards the death of your grandpa. When it comes to ways to help your dad through your grandpa's death there's honestly nothing you can do except show him how much you care that he's hurting right now. A death is something only the person can get through and the only way others can help is for them to show the person that they DO care.
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