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Slumber Party Creepy
I went to a slumber party the other night and one of my friends there "G" started talking about sex. It made me really uncomferable since I don't know anything about sex. I'm kinda creeped about sex. I mean, i'm only 13, but my friends think it's weird that i don't even no what masterbating is. The next day my other friend there came up to me and told me my otehr friends were making fun of me cuz I didn't know what masterbading or anything about sex was. I feel really emmbarressed and creeped out. My parents never really have time to talk about... sex and stuff. and my paretns say i'm too immature to talk about stuff like that. Sure, when someone says don't kick those balls at the wall, i start laughing. I mean it sounds funny, but i'm confused. I need advice fast!
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Honey, you are ine just the way you are. You have to be in middle school and for the most part, are too young to know about that stuff. You shouldn't have to worry about sex for awhile. I didnt learn about it until I was 14 but I wanted to know about it. It was creepy for me too at your age. Dont worry about those other girls and stay the way you want to be. Honestly, those are the kind of girls that high schoolers and even adults call whores. Sex is meant for people in love. 13 year olds dont need sex.
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Your parents mean well by trying to shelter you from things you mat not be ready for but by age 13 you need to know the basics about sex (the mechanics), information about birthcontrol, menstruation, pregnancy, sexual orientation, masturbation etc. etc.
It's their job to ensure you know all of this and to allow you to ask any question you want or need to about sex and not shrug it off as "you're too immature."
They aren't helping you any here by doing that. while they may not have a lot of time parents need to stop and make sure their kids get solid sex education and not rely on the schools to do it and teach values.
I think you need to learn on your own what your friends are talking about. There are two excellent books for teen readers that explains sex, puberty, sexuality etc. in a frank manner, non-graphic to readers so they get this crucial information. The books are What's Happening to my Body for Girls and for Boys and both are by Lynda Madaras. Start there.
As for your friends making fun of you just shrug it off and joke about it like this "My parents never got around to telling me that I guess." You could try talking to your friend privately about this kind of thing however, kids who talk to eachother about this stuff may not have all the facts.
Stick to those books. You can either buy them or get them from the library. If you discreetly ask for books on human sexuality for you age group at a bookstore or library they'll help you out. your school library might even have these two books.
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well everyone obvii needs to learn from somewhere! so listen in on peoples convos at lunch or when your in a group and when you hear something you don't know don't tell them come home and google it. new words will always come up and there is no way everyone including your friends to know it all if you need to know what something is email me xoashhx33@hotmail.com or im me xoashhx33
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