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Should i go or not???
ok a few months ago my bf cheated on me. long story, but i gave him another chance and things have been going really good. except that he continuted to be "friends" with this girl. i told him how much that bothered me, so he promised he wouldnt talk to her anymore, except just to say hi and stuff. soooo... now she's going out with one of our friends, "john". john doesnt know anything about what happened and thinks im friends with this girl (we're civil to each other, but we dont like each other). so john keeps suggesting that we all go out on a double date. my bf says maybe we should give it a try, it might be fun. but i really dont want to... i dont want my bf anywhere near her. but i also dont want to sound rude, or to look like an overprotective girlfriend. what should i do?
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Tell your boyfriend how you feel. Tell him that you feel uncomfortible and you would rather not go on the double date. But if you feel uncomforitble telling him that, then you could just fake sick or something, a little white lie never hurt anyone =]
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tell your bf how you really feel. if he's understanding and doesn't want to ruin you two, he'll say no too to the double date, or suggest something elso to do/
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Well if you don't go, you won't be there to stop him and her from flirting...
I would definitely go if I were you. I think you made the right decision giving him another chance because it sounds okay, but you can't make him break off friendships because they're of the opposite gender. If you do that, he'll end up breaking up his relationship with you. And you can't help who you're attracted to, but you can help what you do about it, so if he comes on too strong, don't be mad at her entirely. He can take some of the blame. Just continue being civil to each other and all will be well :) Well, maybe it won't be. This sounds like the type of thing where it starts out little, then turns into a huge bombastic (cat)fight. My advice to you is to go and see how the night goes, if you don't like his behavior, tell him; then if he doesn't stop you're better off as just friends or better yet, acquaintences.
Much Luck.
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Obviously John has not a clue why you would refuse to the double date,But your boyfriend should be understand and respect the fact that you don't want him near someone whom he cheated with.If he can't be reasonable with you then you deffiantely need to sit down and talk to him about it.If you feel like you can go on that double date and not feel vilated, then go for it.It's up to you really.Do what you feel is more comfortable.Hope everything turns out okay.Hope I helped as well. :]
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I don't think it would be rude of you to avoid a person with whom your boyfriend "cheated" on you with. It would be different if it were his old girlfriend and they had broken up and there was no way they were interested in each other any more. Don't blame yourself for not feeling comfortable around her. It's his fault, he cheated on you....with her! Duh, what does he expect. You forgave him and all, but that doesn't buy him a pass. You would be within your rights to refuse to double date with the other two.
Michele
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