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help i dont enjoy sex
i have had two sexual partners and i have not enjoyed sex with either of them! if it goes for too long i end up becoming unlubricated and we cant continue its really embarassing! although i can bring myself to orgasm, i dont know whats going on and i dont want my boyfriend to think its him when it actually happens with all guys
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it a mind thing if you might be thinking like "damn im ready to get this over with before i get dry" then chances are you wont enjoy it you just have to let your mind go free and let your body take over and allow it to feel pleasure if you say your orgasming i dont see how you couldnt be enjoying it
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you only had 2 people so its not with all guys maybe they really dont know what there doing and they need to learn and another thing do you masterbate its a known study that some women who dont masterbate never orgasm i kid you not how can someone please you when you never pleased your self i hope i helped and if its neither than try new ways you know maybe do more four play hope i helped
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the answer to your problems is that you need to spend more time doing foreplay... and make sure you tell your boyfriend that he needs to help you with that so both of you can enjoy it.
always be honest with him,, otherwise he is going to think that you are enjoying it...
We, men, listen to your needs....but we can't read minds
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Ok, I know how you feel honey, I have the same problem. I hope I can help. Not all girls are built the same. Orgasm comes from direct stimulation of the clitoris. And some of us have a small clitoris. It doesn't get stimulated when engaged in sex, in the standard missionary position. You can arouse yourself, because you know where to touch. I have never had an orgasm with regular sex in the missionary position.
I learned many years later, that I could have an orgasm from oral sex. And direct stimulation with fingers or a vibrator. But when I was your age, I would not have been comfortable with that. Luckily I grew out of my embarassment about sex and now have a wonderful sex life, but only because my partner is willing to engage in oral sex.
If you are not ready for that, you might want to suggest that you guys use a vibrator as foreplay,
when you are real close to orgasm, or even when you do orgasm, you could then have intercourse. It is wonderful, and your boyfriend, will love it. He will be very happy to see you stimulated and enjoying yourself.
You can assure him that it is not his fault. It is not even your fault. YOu can't help how you are built. If you are not sure where your clitoris is, you can google the word clitoris, click on images, and you will see some medical images (not porno) of the female anatomy, and you will see the clitoris, and then perhaps with a mirror you can see exatly where yours is.
I hope eventually your boyfriend, or someone in the future, will be happy to please you with oral sex. Then you will be amazed how wonderful it feels.
Hope this helps.
Michele
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