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Good, Guy Friend
Before I go on, I have to say this is nothing bout me liking the guy and all that.
I have a good guy friend, we can really talk a lot and all. Just recently, we started talking more. It seems like we have endless things to talk bout, but today, we went out (it was the first time we went out) and I felt it was so... wierd...I don't know..it was awkward at times. It was like as if we were out on a date but we're not. It's actually just normal going out like friends going out but it didnt felt like it. It felt like a whole stupid first date thing. I hated it. Whenever I go out with a guy, just a guy alone, I'd get really wierd. Like I'd try to minimise any actions or whatsover. If I were to accidentally hit someone, I won't dare to say sorry because I'm afraid of him looking at me, or him having his attention on me. I become very self conscious. Like when we were ordering food, I don't dare to order the food. I leave it to him to do it. I don't know. And I DON"T EVEN like the guy! I really really don't. Everything just goes wrong. I become like some wierd, nerdy, stupid uncool asshole. How can I stop that? I would very much like to be his good friend, and I don't want to like him and I don't want him to like me either. Do you people know what I'm talking about? I don't even know what I'm asking. BAH. Whatever.
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I understand what you're saying. As a rule you are in places comfortable to you both. Its familiar. You suddenly are doing something "date like" and it makes you wonder. :)
This is the whole thing that destroys dating a friend. Not that you are, but its the same thing.
Suddenly you feel the need to have approval. You watch what you say and do because suddenly you have a need not to look like a fool in front of each other. Don't want to make the other person mad at you or think you are human!
First time going out is over now. Date or friends, it doesn't matter,(I kind of agree with the adviser who said you may really like each other). You now have to step back and tell yourself not
to suddenly treat each other special. You already like each other. You have no need to impress each other. You have always talked and nobody got mad about what you said to each other. You have to talk. Be yourself. :)
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Hey there! Calm down, what happened to you does happen to others alot.
It was your first time going out with the guy. You guys will get used to each other and then get comfortable to talk about anything. Just give it some time. Spend more time going out.
If you want to make it more comfortable, then go out in like a big group so it won't feel like a date. And both of you hang out. Plus to have more things to talk about, anything random will be ok. For example if you go to a movie, talk about the movie and what you like or hate about it. Anything would be fine. What people are wearing in the mall. He'll eventually respond and you guys will make conversation ;)
Hope that helped. Tell me how it goes, take care and if you need anything else ask! =) <3
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It sounds to me it that you DO like him, you are just scared to admit it to yourself, let alone him. I think what you should do is maybe sit him down, and tell him EXACTLY how you feel, and hope that he feels the same. And if your too scared/nervous/whatever to sit him down in person, write him a letter, message him on myspace [if you both have one], email him. Whatever you feel comfortable doing.
Because, you can't live life being scared to tell people how you feel/think. You'll go through life being peoples doormats, and no one should be afraid to speak their mind.
Hope I've helped, feel free to email me/IM me if you have any questions/need more help. Good Luck!
AIM; histrionics bby
Email; preskool.dropout@yahoo.com
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o if he is you good guy frieand break him down easy tell him the truth he may be hurt by it but at least you will both be happy in the end
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