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WON'T STOP CALLING
I'm completely fed up- I made it clear to this one guy that I'd been dating that I was really busy and was going to move out soon, etc., etc. I did not ever tell him that I wanted to stop dating, but it should be clear due to these signs:
-He called 3x in one day, I didn't return his calls.
-He calls and leaves a message sometimes, asking me to go hang out with him somewhere..and again, I DON'T call back.
Today, he left a message saying something like this:
..it's a nice day, let's go to the beach after class. I'm a little worried, you haven't called me in a week.
Yes, I haven't called him in a week. When I did, it was only to say i was too busy. POINT BLANK>
HE does NOT get the point! He seems to be so desperate that he'll continuously call me, even when I never call him back. It's been this way for a while now, and I'm really getting fed up.
What to do??
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First, I would like to point out that you're communicating in the "language of hints." Bad idea. Why? Hints can me misinterpreted, go unnoticed, ignored, and sometimes... Completely denied. It sounds like this guy is in denial.
The only way to obliterate the denial is to be direct. I'm not telling you to be mean, I'm telling you to be honest. And honestly, I don't think "too busy" is an excuse. I think that you're "just not into him," and you need to say so. (But maybe not in those words.)
Yes, it will be hard. Yes, you will hurt his feelings. But everyone experiences rejection. Everyone experiences it and gets over it and later moves on. He'll get over it, and he'll move on.
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Tell him straight up. Some men wouldnt know rejection if it smacked them in the face.
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LMAO
I'm sorry o_O;
Desperate-ness is jus kinda lammmmeeee.
And hun, it defently sounds like this guys never gunna get outta yo skin.
Just tell him straight-up, you don't want a relationship with him, you don't want to talk to him on the phone, or go to the beach and play volleyball.
NOSHIT, he's not taking the hints well. If, at all. He's stoopid and oblivious if he doesnt get it by now. Just end it all and tell him face to face,in no joking manner, so he understands that you're drop dead serious about it.
be harsh if necessary.
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if he is doing this, he is deprete. he def. is. It seems really anyony, but the only way to get it straight with these kind of boys is to go out or even just sit down and tell him face to face. I CAN'T GO OUT WITH YOU ANYMORE! i'ma sry, but that is the only way to get him out of your hair. Just do it calm and if he starts again talking.. just kiss him softly and say good-bye, this of never worked out between us, but it will work with you with ANOTHER girl. Bye. Somethin' like that.
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I know the feeling. To stop the "harassment" you need to tell him straight out to please stop calling and you don't want a relationship with him. Sure, it may hurt him, but it's best he knows and isn't clinging onto any hope, because you haven't actually told him you wanted to stop dating. He may genuinly think you're just too busy and you might still want to date.
Put both of you out your misery and tell him.
He'll probably respect you for doing it that way. Good luck.
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Just tell him to stop calling or when he calles ignore him because if he does that he is harassing you.
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