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criticizing friend
so i have this friend. and she criticizes EVERYTHING, especially music. so i found this new band mcfly, and i like them and they're pretty good, they're a british punk band. and she HATES them. shes always saying they're whiny and nasty and a boy band, and she hasnt listened to them. so i said cute is what we aim for is whiny and nasty. but, ive actually listened to them and i think they are like that. then she got mad and started flipping out saying cute is what we aim for is not whiny and that i didnt know what i was talking about and stuff. this is just getting really annoying and if she listened to them and then said they were whiny, id be fine with it. because she at least have something to base her opinion off of. but she refuses to listen to them. so how can i get her to either listen to them or just stop talking about them?
thanks
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Good job yoyr a mcfly fan! I know them well lol.
Seriously its human nature that your gonna have different music tastes play her a mcfly song and tell her to liisten to it, and youll listen to cute is what we aim for. Do a trade lol
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i have the same problem with my friend. She hates angels and airwaves and says the same exact thing nd she hasnt even listend to them! its really annoying
ok soo well what you could do is just put it on your myspace...if you have one and hide the music player so she couldnt pause it, and just tell her just please listen to it then you can say they are whiny but you have no right to say that they are whny if you havnt even listened to them!
what i did was just ignored her, and i showed her the best song from angels and airwaves....and she liked her i just kept bugging her to listen to them once before she can say something about them.
well i hoped i helped a little
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I think you're gay for not liking Cute Is What We Aim For.
My opinion.
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Well by now you have learned you really cannot take her seriously when she reacts to anything critically. If she doesn't know what she's talking about and just opens her mouth to be heard it's her problem and not yours.
You really only have two options here. You can either take whatever she says with a rain of salt and say nothing or do what I would do if I were you.
I would say to her the next time she does this "Have you ever noticed just how critical of people and things you appear to come across as?" She might get in a huff at first but maybe you need to straighten her out and tell her how you and others feel. It may help her socially.
The other option you have is to never talk to her about movies, music, boys or anything she can get critical about but then again that is pretty inplausable.
I would tell her the truth, let her get upset, and then watch her cool down and change her ways or just grin and bear it and know that she doesn't even know what she is saying half the time and likely enjoys the sound of her voice or the attention her remarks may generate.
You also cannot get anyone to listen to music or anything they don't want to do. You can suggest it but if she will not listen to your CD consider it her loss and move on to something different. Try to find things you can talk about where she's not shooting her mouth off and being critical if you can.
The bottom line: If I were you I would take her aside when alone and in the nicest way possible tell her what you think of her always being critical and not always thinking or knowing what she's talking about before she speaks.
Tell her you're doing her a favor telling her this as she's annoying everyone she associates with by her behavior. And trust me, that's true. She's oblivious to this as it's how she talks and likely gets it from her family.
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Just say- different people have different opinions. Say you were sorry that you said they were whiney and nasty- you have to be the bigger person. If she asks why you said that, say that she said the same thing, without even listening. Ask her not to talk about music that you like and she doesnt, and you will do the same.
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