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Am I Being Too Nosey?
So I'm 14/f and my fried is 15/f. I love her to death. I've known her forever and I would never abandon her.
She suffers from depression and is on 'happy pills' but she told me that she doesn't think that they are working b/c she calls her bf of a year a few times every month at night with her suicidal ideas. And then there's the whole body image thing. She's 5' 3" and 98lbs--underweight, I know. I did the BMI thing. But she still thinks that she's fat & sometimes doesn't eat saying that she is 'not hungry' when she skipped dinner the night before and breakfast. Then there is her sister--she's very close to her family and I don't mind that. What I do mind, however, is her sister [18/f]. She basically smokes pot & just does a lot of [random] guys. She's not the picture perfect sister to look up to [although she seems very nice and cool].
Anyways, her mom wants to send her to a nutritionist [dieting issue] but hasn't yet. But that's not the main question. I want to bring into her parent's attention that jer medicine isn't working sometimes and I'm afriad that she is going to hurt herself someday. And I'm afriad that she'll get dragged into the drug world and what not. I'm just really worried about her and I want to help her but I don't know what to do...I mean I doon't wanna be super friend and straighten out everything but I'm just afraid that I might lose her one day
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well as a friend i think ythat you should just try to be there for you. I have suffered from depression and the best thing is having my friends right there with me every step. Try to talk to her and let her know that suicide or anything self hurting is a perminte decision for a templary situation.
You should talk to her parents voicing your concerns too. You did say that shes close to her family, but they may not be able to see some of these promblems.
And with her sister as not such a great influence is pretty tuff too. You can't really force poeople to not hang out with someone, so idk what to do there.
Just talk to her, and let her know that your always there for her NO MATTER WHAT :) it helps a lot
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I have clinical depression too and so I know what it's like for her. You need to speak to her about it and you find out if she is still taking her medication and either way, you need to persuade her to go back to the psychiatrist.
This needs to be done sooner rather than later, depressed people have habbits of getting worse dramatically and rather quickly.
The fact that she is calling her boyfriend when she is suicidal is a very good sign though because it means shes still being rational in some respect.
Also speak to her parents so they know what is going on and they can also persuade her to go to the psychiatrist.
Take care, and I hope your friend gets better soon.
xxx
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I'm sorry, but caring about your friend and trying to help her with her current problems and potential problems is not being nosey at all.
YES. Bring your concerns to the attention of her parents.
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First of all, you have to contact someone reliable about your friends problems. Can you imagine how guilty youd feel if something bad did happen to your friend and you had never said anything?! This is why you have to tell someone. Your friend will be mad at first, but in the long run she will thank you if she is a true friend.
Good luck,
<3 Rachy and Erry
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hey, as "gay" or "corny" as it sounds you need to tell her parents. wouldnt you feel awful if something happened to her and you knew that her medicine wasnt working, but didnt do anything about it or tell anyone? could you live with yourself?
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You're not being too nosy, and maybe you should tell her parents if you are really worried about her safety. She may be mad but you want what's best for her, right? She can't stay mad forever. It sounds like your friend may be anorexic also, but the best thing you can do is be there for her and make sure she knows that.
- - - Jasmine - - -
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