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Fighting With the best friend i ever had.
my best friend maria and i are in the biggest fight of our history of fights.....she even told me that she didnt want to be my friend...now i fell guilty for what i said...i said that she annoys me. all she ever talks about is her boyfriend, soccer, and how much she loves this guy seth and how much she hates these girls madison and adriane. i really want to be her friend cause she is the best friend i have ever had....i even said that i dont think her boyfriend is real and she wrote me this note saying that she dosent want to be my friend. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO!!! I AM SO AFRAID TO TELL HER THAT I AM SORRY CAUSE I AM AFRAID THAT SHE WILL SAY THAT SHE HATES ME OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!
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First of all, if it just happened she's obviously going to be upset. However, you told her the truth and just because it wasnt something she didnt want to hear, it shouldnt ruin a good friendship. If you are acting like this with her, showing her that you REALLY need her as a friend and that you're afraid to apologize because you dont want her not to be your friend, she might use this against you by doing exactly what you dont want to happen, just for the hell of it and to hurt you just like you hurt her. If you guys become friends again, good, but you cant tipy toe around her even if you want to stay friends. It's good that you told her how you felt and dont regret that for a minute. Just give her time, and take some time yourself to re-evaluate the situation. You might think YOU and only YOU are wrong in this, but she is overreacting. If that's how she is with everything, then you deserve better friends and you should find someone out there that treats you right! Good luck! :)
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ok well i have totally been in your place before, so all you need to do is be honest with her..... say something like "im really sorry for what i said, i dont know why i said it or what came over me and caused me to say that, but im really sorry, all i want is for us to be friends, i understand if you dont want to be friends with me anymore but im really sorry about what i said, your my BEST friend and i dont see us losing our friendship over some stupid argument, im sorry, i hope you forgive me" if that doesnt work for you then say something else just make sure that you tell her your really sorry and that you never meant to hurt her, im sure she will understand but if she doesnt than you dont deserve her
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If Maria is really the best friend you ever had and vice-versa this will eventually blow over on its own. What you need to do is give her a few days to calm down and stay out of her way and say nothing to her.
The comment you made really hurt her because there's some truth to it. You made her realize that she is annoying sometimes and that she only talks about herself, a certain guy and who she hates. She just did not want to be confronted and a lot of people don't with their faults. Some people can take it or say they can while some clearly cannot and don't.
You have a lot of history together so I'm sure she will talk to you again and you can work through it. As far as saying her boyfriend isn't even real even she can see that's a dumb reason for a huge fight and to stay mad.
Wait for her to approach you and when she does ask to work things out. I'm sure it will go well but you need to give her a few days to simmer down. I highly doubt the friendship is lost but even if it is this says a ton about her and said friendship was never built on solid ground like you thought.
Give her time, let her come to you and work it out. The worst thing to do is go up to her all stressed asking for forgiveness. She will never treat you seriously or give you an inch or place to voice your opinion of anything afterwards.
She will have all the power in the relationship as that tactic puts her ahead of you from here on out and ruins the trust factor. Wait for her and work it out or if she's not showing interest move on. This should pass though. She's reacting like most people her age that get their nose out of joint over trivial remarks. She'll be fine.
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well you gotta just explain to her mostly how you are feeling and say you are sorry it will help alot and try and make a peace offering. but in the future when she needs to vent sometimes no matter how annoying it is if you are her true best friend you will be there to listen to her. and when you need to vent about people or anythign she will be there for you.
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just relax. you have to calm down. just take a few deep breathes, and dont think about it for 120 seconds.
now. if she was really your friend, she wouldn't be saying stuff like that... & would be treating you better.
you were obviously really upset for saying those things. if she was reall your friend, she would forgive you. give her one day of space. & if she comes around, she was always your friend. if you say sorry & she says she doesn't want to be friends, that's how it's gotta be.
you can always meet new people. friends are supposed to be there for you.
maybe it was a one time thing, & you guys just got in a fight once. if it happens again & again, i'd start moving on, girl.
don't worry too much about it. she's really steamed up right now & so are you. so just cccchiiilllll. don't say anything more to her to exacerbate the situation.
after you guys cool down, just calmly talk to her. if she starts screaming & yelling... well then i'd give her some more time.
i hope i helped & good luck. dont keep being her friend if she doesn't treat you right.
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