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should i stop bein friends with her
I have a big problem wit my best friend and my mom. My mom hates her. Shes a good person she just does bad stuff like smoke drink fight ect.But also we have kind of split apart a little because she gets so jealous of everyone im with.. my mom doesn want me hanging out with her neither does my boyfriend. but i dunno what to do. i feel bad. should i just lie to my mom and tell her im going out somewhere else when im hanging out with her. what should i do? Also its getting really she gets so mad at me when i hang out with my bf she is like u never have time for me is always him. it annoying me now. I love my boyfriend and i want to spend time with him. pleasee helppp me.
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well, if your friend cant understand that you need time with your bf, then she is not a real friend, and as for the smoking/drinking/ bad things problem, all you need is one time to do one of those things and ur whole life is over, so i'm sure you've gone through a lot with this person, but you have to always think of yourself and your safety first! so dont be friends with her, i no its not as easy as i say it is, but please listen!
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Well, you should try to talk to your friend's mom if you can, and ask her to help her with her drinking and smoking issue. Groups like Alcoholics Anonymous, quitnet.com and Nicotine Anonymous are good. You'd be doing her a HUGE, ABOSOLUTELY GI-NORMOUS favor. Your mom will be proud of you for helping someone rehab their life potential, and plus you'll probably get to hang with her again.
GOOD LUCK TO BOTH OF YOU GUYS!!
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Well, right now, it seems like she is not the best person to be friends with, and it seems like she is bringing you down mentally and literally. But she is still your friend. Now, your mother and your boyfriend is against it, but since she is yur friend maybe you shud try to make it work first. Talk to her, it might be hard, but if her friendship is really worth it, then its worth sitting her down and talking to her about her actions towrd you, and her actions that affect her as a person as well. Make sure she understands that her actions are jeapordizing your friendship with her. If she values you enough as a friend she shud make sum changes. Also, for her, u, and ure boyfriends sake, let her express to you clearly why it is that she doesnt really like when u spend time with ure boyfriend. Then maybe a compromise could be formed, or you guys can double date. I hope I helped. If she cant understand, that you are trying to make it work, then she is not worth ure prcious time or friendship, and slowly draw yourlself away from her.
Good luck
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If this girl is your best friend, you need to talk to her about your feelings. She needs to give you the respect to listen to you and try to understand where you are coming from. Explain to her that it isn't your intention to leave her out, but when a girl gets a boyfriend, she has to spend quality time with him in order for the relationship to grow. Sadly, if she doesn't want to understand this, then she isn't really your friend to begin with. A true friend respects you and your feelings.
I can see where your mother is coming from. She is only trying to protect you from all of the bad things your friend does, weather you are choosing to do those bad things with her or not. (Hopefully not.)
I had a friend that got me into trouble in highschool. (She was my best friend, too.) My mom said I couldn't hang out with her. She didn't disallow me to be friends with her, I just wasn't allowed to hang out with her outside of school.
Don't defy your mother. Don't go hang out with the girl and then lie about it. When we lie, it almost always comes back to bite us in the ass. You don't want that! Your mom is just looking out for your best interests.
As for wanting to spend that time with your boyfriend- absolutely do that. Never let your friends dictate how much time you spend with him. That is for you and him to decide.
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A good person that does bad stuff. First of all you need to get the balls to decide which, because that makes no fucking sense at all. If you want to be her friend then have to courage to decide that she's fucked in the head, and then collect thoughts to everything she's doing bad, tell what she doing. Don't put your opinions into the equation, any emotions, just verbal facts. You can't let her back into any corners that way, and say something back if you just tell the absolute noble truth.
As far as your bf, just tell her you'd rather hangout with a cock, and balls at the moment. If she can't understand that than she's probably a lesbian. Odds are if some of the bad things she does are drugs, then she's been with other girls before.
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