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moving
ok. so i've lived in my house for my whole life (litterally). and now, my mom says we're moving. at first i was upset. but now i'm ok with it. my parents are divorced and my dad is trying to stop us from moving. and if he does, we don't know what's going to happen. should i confront my dad? or just let this whole thing go?
ps. if we DO move, i'll lose ALL my 6 cats and more.
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It all depends on whether or not you want to move. It doesn't sound like you do. I'm sure that you dont want to lose your cats, and the home where you've spent your whole life. But think really hard before you decide. This is a decision that could change your life.
1. If you do not want to move:
Talk to both of your parents, separately at first. Explain that you do not want to move. If you will be moving very far away, say how this will hurt you. If it's still in the same town, then emphasize how this is the house that you grew up in, and it means a lot to you. Ask your mother to just think a little harder before she uproots both of your lives. Ask your father if he will talk to your mother(but ask him to be kind about it.)
2. If you do want to move:
Confront your dad. Tell him that you don't mind moving, and ask him why he's trying to stop it. Try to reason with him, unless his reasons are valid. If that's the case, well, then you can cross that bridge when you come to it.
Hope that helps, love.
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I'm sure your mother must not want to move either and nor does she want you to lose your pets or anything else. As a single mother she has to rely on the money she makes and your dad paying your child support checks monthly.
She must not be able to make ends meet to afford keeping a whole house rather than an apartment if it's only you (and maybe a sibling or two) to inhabit it. Bills like heat, air, electric, cable etc all add up.
Your father may actually have legal rights that you are unaware of being a kid and all regarding joint custody that stipulates he must be able to see you for visitation and have both of you live near him for that.
If he's trying to stop you from moving consider whether or not this means he cannot visit. Then you'll know why he is challenging your mother on it.
I do not think you should talk to him about it as sadly that can be used against your mom in court. Let your mom know what you think and allow the adults to figure it out. I have always believed in what is meant to be will be. Either way do not worry too much as life has a way of working out well for people despite less than great situations in the beginning.
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I think you should just let your parents handle this between themselves.
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