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I just don't know what to do
there is this guy at school and i don't know him that well personally but i know a lot of things he does and it isn't good.....drugs and violence. I'm scared to try to help him because i don't want him to think i stalk him or anyhing because i just found out that stuff from one of his closefreinds and his freind showed me evidence so i know it's true....what do i do do i just leave it alone or try to help because he is really nice and i'd hate to see him get hurt
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*Being as you don't know him very well, I do not recommend talking to him about this. I think this would only makes things awkward and really uncomfortable. However, I do recommend getting to know him and being his friend. You could have a major influence in his behavior, if you become good, close friends. Just remember, you shouldn't pressure him or anything along those lines, because this will more than likely, push him further away from being your friend.
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Any person who is involved with those things almost always wants help- primarily because its a cry for attention. However, seeing as you do not know him very well, before jumping into the 'Save This Kid' Foundation, try to get to know him. Even if its just a friendly hello every now and then, it will help him to realize that he has people that care for him. After a while you can ask him why he does what he does and express your opinion on the right thing to do, but dont force it! No matter how bad it is, you can't fix it, he has to
-hope i've helped!
Miss Mabry
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If one of his friends is showing you evidence he is trying to hold you responsible (most likely) because he needs help to help his friend. You cannot control what he does, all you can do is hope and pray the best for him. Talk to a school counselor and tell them to talk to him about it but tell them not to say you came in. He might find it somewhat insulting you've taken the time to investigate his personal life but it was at the reguards of his saftey which is a perfectly acceptable excuse! And as for the violence, maybe (calmly if at all) talk to him about what this can cause and you only want to help. Tell your parents, a teacher, a counselor whoever you trust! Even if he hates you at first for it he will thank you in the long run.
-Hope I helped
-feel free to ask me anything else <3
-Lauren
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Since you don't know him that well personally, don't talk to him about it. It seems like your finding all this stuff out about him, from his friends. When it could be made up. Even though it is pure "evidence" it might not be true, and approaching him about it would be very rude, true or not. Unless you've SEEN him do it, or if you've heard STRAIGHT from him, you can't say that you KNOW he does this stuff. People make stuff up and lie, it's human nature, that's what this "close friend" might be doing.
For now, until you become closer with this guy, just wait.
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if you're friends with him, talk to him, but don't pressure him. If you aren't friends, don't talk to him about it.
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